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writes:I recently found out my husband has been leading a double life. We have been together for 7 years. Married just 2 1/2 months. He has had a girlfriend for the past 3 1/2 years. He was a co-worker with her. She did know about me, but he said I had moved and we are no longer a couple. They begin seeing each other when I was working, with my family and not home.He would say he had to work overtime, but go and spend the day with her. Come home to me and act like nothing was wrong. A step son's girlfriend told me that he had another girl friend, I questioned him, he admitted that he had a one night stand, and that it was over. I was leary, but believed him. Last week he said he had to work on his day off, I drove past his work place, his car was gone. I called him, he said he needed time for himself. I questioned him and he admitted to being with her. When he got home, I called her. Told her that we were married in Dec. She had no idea I was still with him. I asked her to come over. Which she did. I showed her the marriage license. She told me that in Sept. she got engaged to him, showed me her diamond. For the past 3 1/2 years, he has been telling both of us lies. Now that it is out in the open, he promises to go to counseling and wants to make the marriage work. I am an emotional wreck. Do I believe him or is it just another lie?Can this marriage be saved?
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 I believe you want to save this marriage. His actions will tell you if he wants to save this marriage. If both of you want to save this marriage both of you will follow the guidance of a good marriage counselor and make the necessary changes in your lives. You can do this.
Love conquers all, whether it be marital problems, health problems, or deaths. I have seen it in others and the love of my life and I are living it today. With love truly anything is possible. Anything! I wish you and your husband all the best.
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (20 February 2011):
Oh boy. I'm sorry, but I think if you stay with this guy you are going to get played over and over. I would get out now, get your head straight, and then maybe someday you will find someone who is worthy of your love. Good luck.
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 I think you're just postponing the inevitable, which is breaking up and minding your own life. He sounds too damaged to be able to actually put his Humpty Dumpty together again and make himself and anyone around him happy. You'll never know when he is telling the truth and it will slowly drive you insane. You'll end up wallowing in self pity, here's who I married, look what I ended up like, frustrated and suspicious, and so on. Let him handle his troubles all alone, a wife is not a prerequisite for him to heal, in fact he sounds really messed up and there is nothing you can do to help, step aside and let the professionals do their job, IF he really means to go have his issues checked by a pro. You have the right to be emotionally stable and safe and I don't think in this joke of a marriage you can be that, I'm sorry. Stay strong and healthy. Best of luck.
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reader, milburn03111965 +, writes (20 February 2011):
I say cut that fool loose, and enjoy your life without him. Who has time for that? I am not in your scenario, but I feel your pain, because we as women always want to believe the best.
I am in a current scenario where the man was married, but he told me they were not living as a married couple, so that is how we had so much time to be together. The wife passed away after a surgery gone wrong, and come to find out, not only was the man living a double life, he was living a TRIPLE life. With me, his wife, and the person who he now shares a house with. His wife passed last year, he collected a sizeable life insurance policy from it, he squirreled it away, and the third woman that he was dating has moved into the APARTMENT that he and his late wife shared, she left her HOUSE for this. And he had her thinking that I was a stalker!!!!!
Men who do not tell the whole truth are dangerous, and are up to no good. You don't need that.
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