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writes:Hi all, yes it's me again!!! I don't know if I mentioned before that the woman my h/band was having a 'text affair' with said that at least it was the first time she'd done it unlike my h/band?? Anyway, if so I might have mentioned that he'd bought a Tiffany and Co pendant for a woman he was friendly with before the 'text affair'. He has told me for the last 8 years that he bought it because she had her bag stolen from the office at work and it contained a Tiffany and Co celtic cross pendant which he replaced cos she was so upset. In my heart I knew this was rubbish but because the 'text affair' woman alluded to the fact he'd had a previous 'affair' I rang Tiffany and Co and guess what?? They told me that it was a Tiffany OPEN HEART pendant not a flaming celtic cross-quel surprise!! Worse still it was ordered on Feb 14th 2001 but he swears blind he didn't give it to her until mid March at a committee meeting and it was cos she'd been very ill with a nervous breakdown. OMG I can't take much more (if you know my whole story you will understand why).
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reader, bitch  +, writes (22 October 2009):
Dump this jerk and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Hi Scrambled Braini want to tell you something with love and respect. a few days ago you posted this as an anon OP. I KNEW immediately it was you, see my last paragraph where i gave you a cryptic clue that i knew it was your post. look for the words scrambled and brain. although i understand what you are going through, please do not try to hoodwink the aunts here posting as a different person. as i said i love you i feel for you but i will not accept that you post as different persons. it just does not give you any credibility. sorry to be harsh but i think we need to get the lines of communication OPEN AND HONEST. you would also note in many of my replies i challenge OP'S who do not link their posts, or who give inconsistencies. i almost always go back and find the postings to highlight to the OP that non disclosure is a NO NO. sorry to go on about this, but i think the aunts here on DC have a lot of time for you, so please post as one person, doesn’t matter how many times you post.Having said the above and getting it off my chest I just want to say this AGAIN:Scrambled, this man is a professional con man, he is a liar, he manipulates you, he Your hb although you love him, is a serial player. Seems like he has led a double life for a number of years. It is only now his true character is being revealed. I have given you the same advise over a number of post- it is time to get FINANCIALLY FIT. Your hb is sly. He is actually a conniving bastard. You are slowly unearthing more discrepancies. You may not be prepared for this but i believe he has lied to you that nothing physical happened with another woman. Your hb seems to love women, seems to love the power he has over women. He has money and he used this to his advantage. I would not put anything past him. In fact I DO NOT TRUST HIM. And deep down you do not too.Yes you can’t take it any more, but my darling Scrambled, you are choosing to stay, you are choosing to pretend that all is well. you are choosing to lead this life with him. Your hb is not the man you thought he was. Yes you went through menopause for a while but his affairs go well beyond those years. Your hb has been for want of a better word, fucking around for a long long time. It is only now that his stink is coming to the fore. I think your hb is preparing to end things with you. He has threatened you previously. He has physically lashed out at you. He has spoken so many lies that i am sure he doesn’t even know the truth anymore. You need to strategise and you need to be financially wise. Do your homework. Please do not continue to be foolish and pretend that all is well. one day soon the rug will be pulled from underneath you and you would not have seen it coming.I am trying to be as gentle as possible with you. I know the pain you are going through but you need to decide what to now do. You are in an emotionally abusive marriage, mentally abusive marriage, it extends to sometimes physical as well. i abhor lies and dishonesty and your hb is the ultimate dishonest manipulative, conniving bastard. He is a piece of work and he is not to be trusted. Get your act together and weather this storm. Girl, you are heading into torrent times so please be prepared..
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