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writes: As my member name reads, I'm 20 years younger than my husband. I'm a Filipina now situated in the US. By the way I get stares when we go out, I'm proud to say I attract attention. I believe I'm beautiful with my polyneisan features, natural tan skin, 24-inch waistline, nice curves. I'm sensible and he says I'm very intelligent. He's 42.My problem is he is not so much into foreplay. I've given him hints that I fancy necking a lot which he's never done for more than five seconds. He'd give me smooches like baby kisses but I really like the hot "can't get enough of me" necking. He doesn't kiss that long ,too before penetration. So usually, the first thing he does when we "do" it is put "his" in "mine".I've over and over tried to tell him I need and would really love a long foreplay but he's just not shown interest at all. Never have. What I'm afraid of is if he never will. I want to think he's the best. I love him. But sometimes, I can't help but think how it feels getting long neck kisses and just hot steaming foreplay.I'm a very tidy and clean and sweet smelling woman.Help me, please.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (8 August 2005):
You need to tell him again what you want. Tell him that the sex is not good for you this should be enough for him to start making more of an efforet. If not, then you need to ask him why he is so emotionless in bed,, there may be an underlying reason...perhaps he doesnt know what to do? If this is the case then showing him would be a good idea.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (7 August 2005):
 Perhaps you ought to try beginning foreplay yourself. Do something active as opposed to just putting up with it. It does take two to have sex after all.
Next time he seems determined to get on with it, hold him off by kissing him all over as well as kissing him on the lips. Be more in control; put yourself in a position where he can't enter you. Give him oral sex, do the full works.
When its all over, say to him that you would like him to return the pleasure and explain exactly what you would like him to do. Ask him how much he enjoyed that experience; help him to see that sex is better with foreplay. If he won't listen to what you say, you will have to demonstrate exactly what you want.
He may be feeling that he isn't up to the job, so do boost his confidence.
Remember that it isn't how you look that is really important in a relationship but how you feel and how you demonstrate that.
Good luck.
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reader, bigsister +, writes (7 August 2005):
I hope that communication with your husband will bring about better times in bed. I totally agree with Ana, do not talk about this in bed. You sound like a beautiful woman and I hope your husband wants to see you as happy as he can make you.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (7 August 2005):
 I think you really need to sit and talk to him seriously and explain to him that this is affecting your relationship with him. That you are not enjoying this part of your marriage. Explain to him that foreplay really preps you and turns you on alot. Ensure though that you emphasize how much you love him...you would not want to injure his ego that much by making him less of a man in any way. Do not ...I repeat ...do not have this conversation in the same bed that you guys have sex in...absolutely not. A neutral place in the house is great. If you do it in the bed ...the bed becomes a sort of stage so to speak...and we don't want to be rated on performance...that just makes things worse.
Good Luck..Ana
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