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writes: I have been married for 6 years and the romance is gone. I constantly tell him that I need more attention, but he is not responding to my needs. I feel that he is interested only in sex and I am getting tired of this. I ask him to take me out, but he won't. I try to dress up for him, but he does not care to notice me. I cook good meals, but he does not even test it. Latelly, I have been attractive to other man and having dreams with them. Please, help because I don't know what to do.
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reader, viki +, writes (2 May 2006):
viki is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone for giving me such good advice. It seems like that you all know what is going on in my head. I can finally take this frustration out and hear what others have to say. Now, I do feel that I am not alone; I can open up and communicate.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (2 May 2006):
 If hubby isn't responding to what you want and it sounds like you are leading by example, then just book the meal out or arrange the night out. If he still doesnt respond then book relationship counselling. Then if he still doesn't respond ask yourself just why you are with him and ask yourself do you want to be unhappy forever. You start by making changes nad if he follows you all well and good, if he doesn't then you may have to call it a day.
Whatever you do do not complicate things by having an affair. It will just make things a thouand times worse and you will end up more hurt and confused than you are now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2006): Hey girl, I was in your situation 2 months ago. It appears that your husband is taking you forgranted. I suggest you start making friends and call them infront of him...try to make him believe that they are men. Go out and have fun. If he's not testing your food....stop cooking! Beleive me, it will kill him and you start gaining confidence in yourself. Before you know it....you'll see him running back!
You can do it!
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reader, DragonLadie32 +, writes (2 May 2006):
 Viki, I have a couple of suggestions for you.. You say that he don't take you out or test your food that you prepair for him then try to get his attention by going and doing things that he likes....Go out to the bars or the strip clubs, or even a sport event make a day of the 2 of you. Put the spontanuity back into your lives go for a picknic and as desert get freaky and offer yourself as desert. The problem these days are because sex is limited to the bedroom, make it a challange.....pick public places to try and make love with out getting caught, if you both chiken out on the sex then there is the fact that you still got out and can try it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2006): hi, it appears that after so long that your hubby has taken you for granted, which unfortunately happens in alot of long term relationships, but this is not fair on you, personally if it was me in your situation i would make him realise what he has got. it sounds like you are making alot of effort to get him to take notice of you, dont, just carry on being yourself, act like youre not bothered, dress up to go out, believe me, by making no effort to get him to notice u, he will
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