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writes:Hi guys.I'm a newlywed, been married for eight weeks now, my wedding was a small but intimate one with 20 guests.The issue here is my new husband. I really love him, but he's possibly changing or changed in a way that he's questioning the marriage before it's even begun.He's been complaining how humdrum everything is, wants us to go back to the excitement of everything before we moved in together (we moved in together 6 years ago but our wedding got delayed due to COVID and other factors beyond my control, including finances) and he keeps complaining about how everything's "humdrum, not fun anymore and I miss the pre-moving in times."I told him that we're there together, as a partnership, but he insisted I was buying into propaganda on marriage published by Republicans.I'm not a fan of the Republicans, but politically, I'm confused by a lot of things; what I do support is things like defending Internet freedom (my job involves the Internet for a living), abolition of capital punishment, free trade agreements, same-sex marriage.If there was a possible independent politician who had those as his main things to vote for I could possibly vote for him or her as President.But I'm not politically active, unlike my husband.I said "No, I've not bought into ANY propaganda, and I don't think there's any."Now he's threatening to move out and get an apartment to re-create those days.I don't want that, told him this, but he's insistent.
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reader, TH8220 +, writes (10 May 2022):
TH8220 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you.
I showed husband this post, but he was claiming this post was some sort of pro-Biden thing.
We're Americans living in Canada, for the record.
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reader, Hargenfell209  +, writes (10 May 2022):
All relationships eventually become humdrum. Mine did at times, but this guy probably wants the easy bits of having a honeymoon period and easy sex with romance, without things like chores, bills, housework, raising kids etc.
Also, to think he's a newlywed and saying this? Odd for someone newlywed to say this, normally they'd be in an extended state of happiness for ages....
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reader, QueenCupcake +, writes (9 May 2022):
 So he basically just wants the easy honeymoon stage without commitment or effort. What was the point of him marrying you?
I agree with Honeypie. Tell him to move out, but if he does, it’s over between you both. It’s not fair on you and you shouldn’t have to put up with this from your husband. Just sounds like he wants his options open.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 May 2022):
 Tell him to move out. And when he does, you and he are over.
The whole POINT of a long-term relationship is not "fun", it's to support each other, invest in each other, spend time together, building a future.
Sounds like he wants to be sorta single or only get the "benefits" from a relationship but not the work it takes to run a household and relationship day to day.
And it sounds like he doesn't want to marry you. That you want marriage and he doesn't so this is his "excuse" to "bug out" from that future.
As for political affiliation, I don't think that is what makes a relationship "fun" or not "fun.
Maybe you two are not really as compatible as you think?
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