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writes:I split up with my husband 2 years ago as he had an affair.i am now with my boyfriend almost two years. i still abit insecure to how my husband treated me but love my boyfriend so much.The only thing is i dont know if i trust him and feel he lies to me.he says im being stupid and shouldnt compare him to my ex.Once i noticed condoms gone from his car and he said he gave them to a friend whie working.Then i found on two occasions condoms in his trousers,we dont use them,he said he found them on a table at work.Once a week he goes to play cards and both occasions i have seen a number he has phoned,he said he caught his phone by accident and that he dont know what the number is for.Today i found a picture of 3 girls together on his phone in the file for pictures taken,it was taken when he was supposed to be at work,it was not taken at the work because the background was different.he said a friend bluetoothed it.this was on a day he has off but he said he had to go to work for 4 hours.i feel like he is lying to me or am i being insecure because of my past?if i question him he said i have told you the truth and if you belive or dont belive he dont care,he has threatend to leave me because i question him,im not eating not sleeping please what should i do?
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reader, Nevalearn  +, writes (9 September 2007):
He sounds guilty to me. You know yourself the answer to the question. My first husband was very unfaithful to me but it didn't stop me from trusting my second husband, I loved him to bits and he knew what I had been through with 1st hubby so I thought he would never do it to me. But guess what, he did it too. What is wrong with men. I think if you need prrof beyond doubt stop accusing him of things because then he will cover his tracks better. Give him enough rope to hang himself. Quietly go about your detective work. You will catch him out eventually. I wonder if Lesbian relationships have these issues? Now there's a thought!
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reader, kindhart03 +, writes (8 September 2007):
 hiya ,i really feel for you in this situation,this man in your life seems very shady indeed and has no consideration for your feelings at all,threatening to leave you for asking him a question that you have a right to have answared is a cop out and just adding more to your suspicion ,and having condoms on him when you dont use them together is a definite indication of infidelity,trust your womanly instincts girl there never wrong ,dont put it down to mear insecurity even though you may be a little bit from your last partner ,us girls have a hunch for these things ,it seems like he isnt going to tell you one way or another ,try following him one night i know it sounds insane but i did it once to a man who was cheating and liying to me ,i found him with another woman and got rid.dont stop eating youll make your self ill ,he isnt worth that ,belive me check up on him do what ever it takes dont let him get away with this .
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