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writes:my husband cheated all five years but now he's saying he'll never do it again.what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): My husband cheated on me for three years with my so called best friend. It has been 2 years of trying to rebuild a marrige. I still do not trust him and am still having a hard time to let it go. It has devestated my life. I feel like he gave me hell.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (25 November 2007):
 Hi, it is your decision wether or not to forgive this man, i know that if my boyfriend of 17 months cheated on me, then i wouldnt forgive him because i would know he had been with someone else.. Think hard about it, and if he's done it once, what's so different that he wont do it again.. I hope i helped :) Feel free to mail me about anything :) x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 November 2007):
 If a partner of mine told me this, I would find it difficult to believe. Maybe I wouldn't believe it.
There is always a reason behind cheating. In his case, this reason lasted for at least five years. This wasn't an impulse, but a the conscious decision he made. He knew what he was doing all these five years, during which he chose to disrespect you behind your back. I don't know how you found out about his cheating, but I have a feeling that maybe he's saying this because he wants to get away with it.
If you're sure he won't cheat again, then you need to forgive and forget. It would be no good if you forgave him this one and then became jealous and controlling.
Question: if you stayed with him, are you sure you could leave these five years of cheating behind?
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