A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes:My husband cheated on me with one of my friend who split from her partner last year. I knew something was wrong as he was not himself but I did not find out until a week after he left me in june. Up until then we had a full sex life and continued going out together socialising 4 or 5 times a week, he did not go out in the evenings without me and had a full time job so as far as their relationship went he tells me it was mainly phone calls until he left me. she was landlady of pub where we drank so he was able to see her there but I was with him most of the time. In the 3 weeks he was gone he stayed at a friends choosing not to move in with her but slept there quite often, they kept the relationship very low key. He has told me he never slept with her until the night he left home, I find that hard to beieve though we kept in daily contact and after 3 weeks met up he regretted his actions and I asked him back. since then we have been happy he is very attentive. the other women kept contacting him in the begining but he swore he did not meet up with her. she is now with someone else and has been for 6 months. but I have just found out my husband had met up with her twice since he returned he says he only met her cos she asked him too and he wanted to finish it properly but he only admitted seeing her cos I found a pub receipt and questioned him about it. he says it shouldnt matter. As it was back when he first returned he swears he had no sexual contact with her when he met her on the 2 occassions and didn't tell. More because he didn't see the point of hurting. Me anymore despite me begging him when he returned home that he must not keep anymore secrets from me. he says he hasn't seen her for months and he loves me and couldn't be happier but since confronting him last week he has had touble getting an erection at night I think it is because he is hiding more from me.I do love him but am eaten up with hate for this other woman and spend hours dwelling and raking over last year analysing everything trying to understand why it happened. I spend hours crying and having mood swings. how can I get over this.
View related questions:
cheated on me, erection, sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): Hey, I am going through a similiar sitaution. I just found out my wife had slept with a good friend of mine. I am a guy and can tell you that he is lying about the first time that he slept with her. Why did he go right to her after he left? I am struggling with the whole forgiveness thing myself. I don't beelive in once a cheat always a cheat, but this will all depend on you and whether or not you can forgive him, but please don't forget. Only you know the answer to this question. Alot of people give you advice about what they would do and you might have always told yourself that if your ever cheated on, thats it, its over. i know i did, but now that i am in teh situation, I am not sure what i am going to do. Good Luck and follow your heart.
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 You are being played. Unless you like it you will have to take the bull by the horns and kick him out once and for all. Get yourself tested for STD's and get yourself the best lawyer you can afford. Time to start over and find the happiness you deserve.
...............................
A
female
reader, HappyPlace +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Um, get rid of him. Quite simple. Once a cheat, always a cheat. It's probably not what you want to hear but it's your only option.
...............................
|
