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writes:My husband and I have been married for 2 years and we fight CONSTANTLY. He is verbally abusive and very moody. He was raised in a "broken home" could that have something to do with this. Should we seek marriage counseling? We have an 18 month old baby together and I am worried for her sake. I love my husband to death but I hate being treated this way. Please help... Reply to this Question
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reader, lnmlisa +, writes (27 April 2007):
lnmlisa is verified as being by the original poster of the question You all say I am so young...and yes you are right. My husband and I went to high school together and we married right after I graduated...so I was only 18. And I did fail to mention that we are a military family so couciling is not hard to get. And if he tries to refuse I can go through his command and THEY will TELL him he has to go. You all give great advice and I appreciate it all! And I think I will just sit down with him and tell him exactly how I feel and we will go from there. I will talk to him about going to counciling. Once again THANK YOU!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): You are very young to of been married for so long and with a child. I think the problems do stem from his background but you need to show him that you love him and try to get things back on track. Not easy i know, but it is possible. Have a chat with him and say that things cannot go on like this, you have a child that is witnessing all of this and must feel the pain also. Let him know that you are not prepared to live your life like this anymore. Be firm and strong. Tell him that if things don't improve then you are off. He should go along and see if there is any sort of counselling that he can get to help him. But it is your future too, so it is up to you how much of your life you are prepared to throw away.
Take care and keep in touch if you want to.
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reader, beautifulllove +, writes (27 April 2007):
 im sorry this is going on and im not sure what to say but that it isnt good for your child and maybe you should ask him if he is unhappy and wants a divorce also tell him how you feel if he wont listen i dont think he'll go to seek relationship help with you "why listen to the other person and mot listen to you"? well i wish you the best and if it gets worse i say take a break intill you two can reach an agreement about what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): i say yes growing up in a broken home could have something to do with it for sure!!! but broken home or not it's NEVER OK to be verbally abusive to u ,or treat u in a bad way!!u could try marriage counseling and see what happens it could help.but he will have to open up and get things all out and so willu .either way its not good to be in tha t kind of relationship for either of u and especially your child!but u could try the coulseling thing anyway.
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