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writes:i've been married for almost three years, and my husband works a lot of hours. we've got two children, a one year old daughter and a two month old son. i'm a homemaker. i have tried to come up with many ideas of foreplay and tried many ways of telling him different things that turn me on. i've even tried guiding him. sometimes it works once! repeating myself doesn't work, and i do my best to remain positive and no critisizing and non judgemental when i try to remind him of things i like. nothing takes.. not even trying to do extras for him. i'm confused! i'm getting very lonely, and i feel like he just expects me to already be turned on when he's finished watching porn (alone) and ready to go himself. i've thought about looking for my own alone-time turn ons, but don't want to cheat. please help
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (24 September 2008):
 Tell him your porn is better and watch it by yourself. He may break down and join you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe've tried watching porn together, and well, he just gets frustrated (don't know why and he won't say). so, i guess he likes to keep that as his own personal thing. he has ugly comments for everything i choose and thats a big turn off. how can i get him to ENJOY it TOGETHER?
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (23 September 2008):
Nagging never works, leading him a bit does. If he thinks that watching porn is a turn on, why not do a little research and find some porn that You like. There is porn directed by women, which is a bit more romantic, and there is computer animated porn and cartoon or anime porn. Women are more turned on by fantasy porn than regular, like men are. Then have a lovely dinner together and watch YOUR new porn together. It might even give him a few new ideas! ;-) Good Luck, Hun!
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