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writes:I have known my husband for 20 years and we have 2 kids. We split up 7 years ago but have remained very close - even sleeping together from time to time. Since we split up neither of us has been out with anyone else - until last week when he told me that he had started seeing someone else. I'm pleased for him and I definately don't want him back but I am very upset. I can't stop crying. Why am I like this when I don't want him for myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): Well, for one you are sad because it reflects that he is moving on with his life, and you have not, you are not dating, you are not leaving your heart open to someone else, and you have kept your ex husband on the back burner of your heart, it is a mistake to sleep with him on occassion, it does not allow you to fully let go of him.
I don't think you want him back, I think you are sad for yourself and your lack of a romantic life, and to see him with someone else or to know that he is brings back fond memories when things were good between you, and makes you stuck in the past.....which is where you are still living in the past.....get up, wipe your tears and get back into the world, learn how to flirt and to date men again, you are a young vibrant woman and time is passing you by, don't be sad, be mad that you are putting your life on hold and get busy getting a life for yourself! You can do it, even with a child.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (27 July 2007):
 You have known each other for a very long time and obviously gone through alot together, just because you no longer want to be with him does not mean you should not be hurting now that he has met someone else.
Your hurting i think because like you have said you have remained very close and even slept together at times and things are going to have to change now, so it will kind of be like the end of an era now, rather then seven years ago when you first seperated.
Obviously i could be totally wrong and i'm sure you will have many opinions on here.
Take care.xx.
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reader, jomana  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 maybe because you feel that he's moved on and you didn't or maybe because you feel that when you got the devorse you did not basiclly end the relation ship in the way you wanted it to end or maybe and simply you still love him but don't want to get back because you'll just pass through previouslly or maybe because he's become a close friend and you feel that the other girl will be taking him away from you
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