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female
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41-50,
*endy2012
writes:I have been married for a 7 months and having problems with my hubby .he is generally a good person. however, he can really be rude. He would say I ask too many unnecessary questions, when am asking a genuine innocent question, he would also just unexpectedly just snap a mem some times he would just ignore and not answer me when am talking (politley, not in an argument set p). I have discussed with him, and what seems to be the problem is when ever he becomes rude, he has misinterpreted my question/action /comment to be a personal attack. An innocent question is seen as an interrogation/accusation. An inocentn comment is seen as undermining his thinking etc. example one evening he was using my sim card for making calls, then put it in my car after wards. The sim card fell in one of the compartments and I couldn’t find it when he told me that he had put it in the car. I innocently persisted to ask him if he is sure he put it in the car, as I could not find it. Later on, after it was discovered, he told me I was accusing him of having stolen it. It is worth less than a dollar and couldn’t understand why he thought I thought that way. Several such things happen, and when he is rude, usually its because he sees what am saying as an attack. I never think of attacking him in anyway, and don’t know what to do now. I have explained to him several times that i never have hidden motives or bd intentions in my interaction with him, but nothing is changing. His rudeness is driving me crazy and lowering my esteem!!! What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 His behaviour doesn't sound normal, and is very worrying. If he's getting upset over very little things and insulting you, I worry what will happen over big things.
Has he always been like this, even before you married him?
Does he treat everyone like this.
This marriage doesn't sound like a safe place for you to be. Anything little can make him angry and it doesn't even have to be your fault. If this is how he is at 7months (honeymoon period) he will be very dangerous the longer you live with him unless he gets some help. I really would feel more comfortable if you would leave, at least until he deals with his anger issues.
Very, very worrying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): Congratulations you have just discribed what is commonly known as emotional abuse, leave or you have told him with your actions of staying to mean that you are accepting of it and it will become worse over time and will most likely turn in to physical abuse over time, get out now........
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