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anonymous
writes: My husband is highly controlling. My husband is deliberately trying to make me feel jealous and insecure. It seems to be when he feels jealous of me or I don't do something he wants me to do or something he doesn't like. So it seems like he uses it as a punishment and to torment me. He is making me hate him and not want to be with him. Not because he is making me jealous but the fact that he is deliberately trying to. And then he will say I don't care about him. he is making me feel very angry. What is the best way to deal with him because I will end up getting to the point where I feel revengeful.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 February 2016):
 If you don't want to be in a controlling relationship, then get out now before it is to late. This is your life, and you are in control of it. Your husband sees you as weak, someone he can control and who will not stand up for herself. Be confident and strong, and show him that you are in control of your life.
He sounds like he is insecure in himself and he hates seeing you happy. This is not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. The only way he will ever change is if he makes the effort to get help with his issues, but most people wont.
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reader, Baltazar  +, writes (11 February 2016):
He knows you aren't going anywhere so he feels very comfortable acting on his emotions. The only solution is staying at a family members house for a night or two, let him notice that you are serious about leaving. He can easily call your bluff so you might have to take drastic measures like printing divorce papers or actually taking clothes and living with someone else for awhile. The more time away from him the better. If he really loves/needs you he'll change for a little bit.
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