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writes:Hello, I am 16 soon to be 17 and my gf left me for someone else, I have handled it well so far but over the last 2 weeks I keep feeling strange, I moved on and found someone else who I really like and we are now dating, unfortunately she is one of my ex's best friends so she is a constant reminder of the pain but not only that I keep getting drawn into long converstions about my ex and then end up hurting more inside. So far over the last week I have heard things like my ex still likes me and stuff, I know it's wrong to get back with her after she hurt me as badly as she did but I don't know what I would do if she asked. Please someone help
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (4 April 2009):
i wouldnt go down that path again. as soon as you start to question yourself through the fault of another that is when you start to realise 'hold on a minute thats wasnt my doing! yet im the one still hurting'. Unless she has come to you with an open heart, a honest outlook and a regretful mind then i wouldnt believe all that you hear, people love to stir and what youve heard may not add up to whats actually been said.
you obviously still have feelings or else you wouldnt question it but dont just loose your mind, never forget the past and the reason that its there. Shes hurt you,dont put yourself up for it a second time around. do remember you have somebody so even questioning your ex shouldnt be on the table! moving forward is what you need and youre not going to do that if your heart and mind is with somebody else, let the girl you are cureently with no i dont feel you are ready to commit just yet. sort your head and your feelings first and then go for a relationship when the time is right and your hearts really in it.
best of luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): I think it was too soon to get into another relationship. You werent over the one you had just gotten out of. And of course if you date her best friend you will be reminded of her! I think you need to take a break, take a step back and figure out what it is you really want.
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