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writes:I have no idea what's going on in my life anymore. I'm so confused by everything and everyone. OK, I'll tell you guys the entire story. It's a little bit long, but I hope you guys will stick with me.It was October 2010. I was hanging out with my cousin at a high school football game and his friends, (which one of them I had a huge crush on!) I was trying to get his friend to like me but he's like two years older than me. (I'm 14 and he's 16) So I try and try but him and my cousin ditch me. So I'm left alone and I talk to my friend and I say, "Well, who am I going to hang out with now?" and he looks around and says, "How about him?" I look at the person he's pointing at. One of my cousins other friends. I've had history with this one. About a year before this, almost exactly a year, I liked him. I was in the seventh grade and I was starting to like him. So my friends who were his age knew about it and I told them not to tell them. But one of them thought it was a great idea to do it anyways. In front of him and his friends. (one of them being my cousin who wasn't too happy about it) But he wanted t talk to me about it, but never did. I think he did try at a football game. He approached me and said my name. I responded, "Yes?" getting my hopes up a little bit. He hesitated for a long second and then finally said, "Have you seen your cousin?" my smile went away. "Yeah, he's over there I think." he looks back and says, "Sweet, thanks. See ya around." And ever sense then, all we ever did when we saw each other was kinda look at each other but ignore because we both felt it'd be kinda awkward.When he looked at me, it reminded me of our history. But then I knew right then I had to talk to him. "Is that alright with you?" I asked him. "yeah, it's cool." So that night we started talking. I gave him my number and we were getting to know each other. After the game we gave each other a hug goodbye and I went home. Later that night, he texted me first! I was actually shocked he wanted to keep talking to me. So, there from that night we became friends. We hung out all the time, texted each other non stop, and were two peas in a pod.And this went on for about a month. He was actually the first guy I didn't want to actually date. Usually when I talk to guys I want more than friendship, but he was the first I wanted to just be friends with. So one night we're at a football game and I start thinking about his friends. So then I say, "Sorry, but I don't really like your friends. Well, I just don't like two of them. They are jerks." Little did I know they were standing right in front of us and heard everything I said. I felt bashful and humiliated. But he said don't worry about it and that they don't care what people thought of them. So I didn't bother to worry. A few weeks pass buy and he stops talking to me. So one day after school I go up to him and see if there was something wrong. He said he was grounded and didn't have his phone anymore. So, I told him t text me when he gets his phone back. A week later I get no answer from him. I figure he wouldn't be grounded anymore. So again after school I go up to him and he has his phone. I was puzzled. I go up to him but he just walks away. This went on for a few days. All I wanted to know is why he was ignoring me. So I was done. I didn't want anything to do with him. A month later One of his friends little sister comes up to me and says, "My brother says you stalk his friends." When she said that, I knew his friends said something about me that changed his mind about me. Whatever. I didn't want to deal with this crap. But from that very moment, till about middle of January, I went through a depression. I just didn't feel happy about anything anymore. It was always awkward to see him and his friends. But do you know what the weird thing was? Every time I was in the same room as him and his friends, he would see me and walk away. But when I was in the same room with just him he would casually walk and pretended like nothing was wrong. But that told me that if he was going to be a jerk and take his jerk friends side and not defend me he just doesn't have the guts to be my friend. About a few months later, I was with my cousin and we were on Facebook and he's talking to his friend who I love to death. So he just lets me read the conversation. Then out of no where, his friend says, "Do you know who this fake account is? It's....." and says His name. My heart stopped. My cousin looks at me and says, "You can't tell anyone about it. We're playing a joke on someone." So i stay quiet. A week or two after that, I have my best friend over and of course I tell her who it is. And then suddenly I go on Facebook and i get a friend request from his fake profile. I got so confused and though, "Oh, maybe he does want to be friends after all." Then my second thought was, "Oh, right, he doesn't know I know." So ever since then Everything has been quiet simple these days. It's been almost a year since I last talked to him. But tonight, I get on Facebook and he, himself, adds me as a friend. My heart completely stopped. I didn't know weather to ignore or confirm. So, i thought about it for a long minute and I accepted. It said we had about 50 mutual friends. So then I thought, "Oh, he just added me to be polite." then I look at me email and it said before we had 4 mutual friends. So then it made me think, "Was I one of the first people he added?" I didn't know what to think at all! My head is spinning and I don't know why he wants to be my friend if he's been ignoring me all this time! I just want to know what you guys thought of it? Why he did add me? I know I should get my hopes up high at all. But we're about to start school and we're going to be in the same school so I don't know what to expect with him. Can you please help me? I hope I made this whole thing as clear as possible.
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reader, PrinceCharming +, writes (7 September 2011):
have you ever heard of the term bros- before- hoes? Chances are when you told him that his 2 friends were jerks he got mad and his friends told him that you were a b*tch. It gets worse in high school guys are really loyal to each other so make sure not to stay anything bad about their freinds . I think over that year he forgave you , does he still have thoughs same friends? Message him on face book and be really interesting none of this idk crap , show him you are fun to talk to still, and you guys will be chilling in no time girl :)
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