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writes:One day my guy told me he doesn't want to hide anything from me so i should ask me anything. i then asked him what he has been hidding from me and he said a girl asked him to date her so now he's dating her even though he doesn't love her. He said he told me this so that i won't be jealous if i see them in public. He's handsome and girls adore him. Should i believe him?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 July 2012):
 Since he is YOUR bf, I say DUMP him..
Find a guy who can STICK to just having 1 girlfriend at the time.
Sorry, honey just because girls like him doesn't mean it's OK for him to have multiple girlfriends.
He sounds like a walking STD.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (1 July 2012):
 "Should i believe him?"
Should you believe what exactly? That your boyfriend is dating other women, that he is having sex with other girls beside you? Yes, you better believe it! He even told you he is dating someone else already. Why wouldn't you believe him?
Or do you mean should you believe that "he's dating her even though he doesn't love her"? Again, yes you should. He's boning another chick. I am not sure why you're differentiating if he is banging a vagina that he loves or one that he doesn't. It doesn't change the fact that he is with another woman when you two are supposed to be a couple.
If you're ok with your boyfriend dating other women and having sex with them as long as he doesn't love them, then by all means, keep it going. I would just hope you're not naive and stupid enough to have sex with him without condoms because your chances of contracting it with your man are pretty high.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 July 2012):
 Ok. Make him your EX boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHoneypie he's my bf and we are dating
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (30 June 2012):
 I second Honeypioe's answer.
Should you believe him? He's made it very clear to you that he is receptive to the attention of other women and has no special bond with you that would inspire him to be exclusive. He's also made plain the fact that he has no scruples at all about using women he feels little to nothing for. So, yes I think you should absolutely believe him.
He doesn't care about that other girl any more than he cares about you. In fact when it comes time to explain you to her he will tell her you're either a psycho stalker or that he keeps you around because he feels sorry for you and nothing more.
If I were to guess I'd say that you refer to him as 'my guy' because you haven't made anything official but you've been acting like a couple (at least you have with his encouragement) and don't know what else to call it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 June 2012):
When you say "my guy" do you mean he is your boyfriend or your male friend?
Elaborate please.
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