A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I know this guy and it was love at first sight between us. Kinda weird because we never met in real life, and I never believed in love at first sight before him.We were obsessed with each other, always on the phone or videochatting. Please dont judge the fact that we love each other even though we never met... I know it's crazy and sounds impossible, but it just happened! The first days were just magical and perfect and romantic and all, but then with time, stuff happened.We have some weird connections with our last exs. and it freaked us out. He is born the same exact day and the same exact time as my ex (who by the way cheated several times on me and took me for granted for a looong time) and it freaks me out and sometimes this guy reminds me of him in some reactions and some personnality things, but he's a keeper. But, he says, even though he loves me more than his exs, the same things that happened with her is happening with me, he asks same questions and he gets same answers. and he knows that this wont lead into something good...and also, he gets mad so easily about really stupid things, like for example I used to block my profile pictures in my facebook and nobody can see them, and I just forgot about them, and last night I remembered one perticular picture and I deblocked them for him to see the picture, and then he started wondering why I never showed this to him before, and if really they were blocked for everyone or just for him, and also he asked why and when i blocked them but I dont remember some details, I had facebook for ages, so whatever I answered with he said my answers arent logical and AGAIN the same thing with his ex is happening right now.... It really makes me sad, each thing I say or do he always interpreted it the bad way because it looks like his last relationship which didnt end well and obviously he was deeply hurt! Now he doesnt talk to me first, I always have to be the one who starts the conversation. But when I say when dont u just break up with me if this doesnt seem to work out, he says because he wants to know where it's going and that he loves me...I'm tired of feeling this guilty even though I didnt do anything wrong... I feel like I'm always the bad guy and that he's always right! Oh, one last thing, we promised each other that no matter what we never sleep angry against each other, but yesterday he said really hurtful things before we went to sleep, and he said that the stupidest thing he did was to talk to me on that chattingroom where we met, and also another stupid thing is the fact that he was saving his money to come visit me for 2 weeks... and it's just hurtful, I never lied to him or cheated on him, I always take care of him and call him and I sent him handwritten love letters (he didnt get them yet), I really do my best to make things work, but he makes everything impossible and I feel so guilty. I don't know what to do, I could just end it with him but obviously I cant and thats why I'm here, because I love him too much, because we had plans together, because it feels bad, because I met his whole family and they like me and because he met my family too... and because I guess I'm a dreamer and I dont want to stop believing in us and that soon all this will be gone and that he'll figure out that I'm not like his ex that I'm not lying or doing anything bad....Seriously, is he worth the fight? Any other advice?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 June 2012):
 I am confused, first off you say that you have never met each other that this relationship is more based over a computer and phone and then at the end of the post you say you have both met each others families. So could you just clear up this issue?
Okay at the end of the day long distance is a really hard relationship to keep going. It sounds to me like he is not able to keep this going. He has been hurt therefore he is paranoid. I think he has chosen to talk to you and ask you to be his girlfriend because you are a great distance away from him and he feels that he cannot let you to close therefore he will not get hurt.
I really don't see how this could be a serious relationship as it sounds quite petty to me and you both don't seem to be making any arrangements to be together, although as I stated at the start I am confused if you have both met or not. But looking at this I don't see this relationship lasting.
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (30 June 2012):
 No he is not worth the fight. He appears rather immature and your reasons for wanting to stay in the relationship (if you can call it that) are not very profound.
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