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writes:Question for you guys: my man says he would rather go down on me than have sex! He says he loves that and would rather do that than worry about him. Everything else about our relationship is great, but we don't have sex too often and half the time, he stops before he cums. What's the deal??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): For a man the tension before orgasm is enjoyable, and the orgasm itself is enjoyable, but there can be quite a flat, disappointing post-orgasmic feeling, like the day after Christmas. Maybe he's just prolonging that pleasurable pre-orgasmic feeling and doesn't want it to end. I do the same sometimes, and my wife is just as confused as you are about it. I'm glad you asked this question, because I've never really thought about why I do it before.
So look at it like this: he wants the pre-Christmas atmosphere to go on, and he's willing to give up Christmas day in order to extend it and to avoid the December 26th feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): no, I'm not unsatisfied with the frequency, I just don't get why when we do have sex, he doesn't get off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): Look, we men are a bit weird. Making a woman orgasm is a huge ego boost to us. It makes us think that we're something special - it's like scoring the winning goal against Germany (although hopefully it happens more than once every thirty years). We're fascinated by female orgasms and quite jealous because frankly they just seem to be so much better than ours. For a lot of men giving pleasure rather than receiving it is the aim.
So that's part of your question answered, but there still seems to be a bit of a problem if you're saying that you don't have sex too often. Are you unsatisfied with the frequency of sex?
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