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*addie16LovesJarrod19
writes:i am just wondering how can you tell if a guy really loves his girlfriend. i have trust issues so i'm just wondering if there are any signs to tell if guys really love there girlfriends or if there just trying to get laid. i have been in 4 different (i'm in my 4th relationship) and all the others have done nothing but treat me like $h!+ and i am having trouble believing my current boyfriend who says he loves me, and he knows i'm having trouble. don't worry we're not sexually involved. he doesn't really want that yet; but anyways how can you/would i know if a guy/boyfriend loves his girlfriend without telling her. Reply to this Question
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reader, Maddie16LovesJarrod19 +, writes (3 July 2009):
Maddie16LovesJarrod19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have been together 1 year and 4months. we were friends for about 6 months which is right about the time he told me he loves me. i know him well enough to know that his sister in law is a pretty nice person, he doesn't like his mother. he does respect my family, we have some of the same friends so he does respect my friends. he has told his other friends about me but they don't like him dating me very much. does that mean he loves me? i don't know
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 July 2009):
 Watch his actions. A guy's actions will tell you exactly what you need to know.
Does he treat you with respect?
Does he treat your friends and family with respect?
Does he treat his friends and family with respect?
Does he call when he says he will?
Can you count on him?
Can other people count on him?
Does he help you out when you are down?
Can he keep secrets?
Does he compliment you?
Does he pull his own weight?
If you can say yes to all of those you have a winner.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 Its more about how he treats you. The word love is so easily used and so easily said and is therefore hard to detect its truth. How he treats you, cares for you talks to you shows you off to his friends and can't wait to take you home to meet his mom..that means more. And if this goes on long enough and the love word is eventually used then you will know if it feels right or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): Hey,I am also in your age group and know exactly how you feel. You're not really wanting to tell him about how confused you are as it could damage his trust in you also. However you feel you can't just sit there and wonder or you'll go crazy! right?Every relationship is different. This means that guys express their love in different ways. There's the obvious one, he actually tells you. Look at him as he says it. Is he looking straight at you? Is he serious? One clear indicator he's not like your previous boyfriends is he's telling you he loves you and not asking you for sex.I have to wonder how long you've been together... if he's telling you he loves you from the off I'd be a bit unconvinced too!It's not in the material things, though you probably know, it's not how much he spends on you. It's how he makes you feel. When my guy looks at me, it makes me feel like I'm the exact person he wants to see. Your trust issues could be just your own insecurities, especially if you have a low self esteem or body image. Being hurt by guys previously along with low self esteem would make it hard for you to believe you've found someone who actually loves you. Learn to love yourself, then take a long loving look at your boyfriend. You'll know.Hope this helped.xxx
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