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writes: Late last year I fell in love with the most amazing guy. He is kind, considerate, good looking, in good shape, smart, easy-going... We do so much together, and am planning on moving in within weeks. He lives in a really cool place and drives a flash car. We are always going away to beautiful places. Basically the perfect guy and we're so happy. He's also rich, like he makes over $500k profit a year, and he doesn't have a job anymore - which I always thought was kinda interesting because he's not that old (under 30). He told me when we started dating that he was an Internet marketing entrepreneur and I was just like "cool". My parents love him to bits. So do all my friends. And I couldn't be happier.However the other night we discussed in more detail exactly HOW he makes all this money (I know it is true because I have peeked a look at his bank statements when he was in the shower and he gets like around $50k a month into his account). Anyway, he showed me the sites that he makes his money from and I was just shocked to the core.Most of his revenue-generators are basically adult-related... Not pornography (he would never promote porn and I believe him), but adult contact style and adult lifestyle stuff (all totally legal and actually tastefully done!). He isn't into this himself and says it's just a business. His family don't know the full details, he just tells them about his family-safe stuff.Do you think this should be a problem? I kinda feel like I'm going out with a pimp now but I just love the guy and love the lifestyle we're living. He is the sweetest man you could ever meet and I can't see that this is doing any harm to anyone... is it!?Any thoughts? I still love him to pieces but feel kinda weird about this and wonder if I should tell my parents the full story or not..!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006): Rich is that all you're interested in I can bet you that within 4 years of your little relationship he is going to get so sick and tired of you he will start finding what he does for a life interested. And in this life time we always come across people who make us hot for them. Matter of time. All men cheat so get it thru your thick head. Support your self and dont look at him to support you. HA
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone! Thanks so much for the help! Bev, no it's nothing illegal or nasty or harmful to anyone... Just a touch naughty, and I know that my parents (both Christian, conservative, republicans) would be "non-plussed", but I guess they never need know. Business is business, right? Thanks so much...............
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): Geez, such a big deal out of nothing! It's people like you who jeopardize relationships! It's understandable that you have your 'ideals', but he isn't doing anything that harms anyone, and he isn't doing anything illegal. As far as morality goes, this is between his company and his clients, and not you and him. He's not doing it personally, neither are you. So let him be who he is and explore life with him. You don't have the 'right' to expose him to outsiders. If you have the itching desires to tell your parents, I suggest you respect your boyfriend first, but asking him if you can tell your parents. There is a reason why he told you and not his parents. [sigh]
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (8 February 2006):
 As long as it's honest, legal and doesn't exploit children or other innocents, I can't see that his work should be too much of an issue.
If you feel genuinely uncomfortable about what it *might* be, then ask if you can look at his work in a little more detail, and explain why you want to. If you find that it's adult/explicit and not to your personal taste, that's fine. It's still no really issue, provided all parties are consenting adults. The only time it would be a problem is if it's clearly underage or illegal in your area for whatever reason.
This isn't really for you to tell your friends/parents about, though. If and when your boyfriend feels it's their business, let him mention it in his own way. He might have a particular way to describe his line of work that doesn't make it appear to be creepy or seamy (as it might on first glance).
More importantly, if this guy is fun, sincere, considerate and loving -- that's what counts. What people do for money, is (within certain limits) unimportant.
Have fun!
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reader, lisa_01 +, writes (8 February 2006):
 i would not see it as a problem, i'd actually seen it as a benefit, maybe you could ask if you could buy some of the stuff and you might get it cheaper ;). its not like its porn or anything so i would not stress about it.
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