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writes:I have been going out with my partner for 4 years, everything is great between us,he says he loves me very much. He asked me to move into his house with my two children a couple of hundred miles away from my home town 2 years ago. I moved in and rented my house out and started a new business, but he hates one of my children.The child is 9 and he is constantly moaning about him and says the child is disrespectful of people and objects. The child is not perfect but all other adults in this child company school etc say that he is just an average child. He is bright and popular at school and ok does not always agree with my partners nit picking. My partner has asked me to move out and i am on the verge of packing all our stuff and moving house,childrens, schools. Should i continue to see this man?Will it ever lead to anything? I am gooing to loose my home,friends, and business and my partner is aware of all this?He says he is going to loose his partner and best friend but there is no other option as living with my son is not in the equation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): I myself am a single mom,with a 9 year old. You need to get it in your head that when it comes to sharing your life with someone,you are a package deal. If someone cannot accept you and your children as one,that is a dealbreaker. You truly have feelings for this man,but the fact that he is being honest with you about his feelings for your child says it all. Pack your bags,move out and enjoy your children. Work on trying to get over this man,as it is apparent,he has a deep dislike for your 9 year old. It is your job to love and protect your kids,having your child around this man is not a good environment. You deserve better and so do your kids. Good luck!
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reader, carebear +, writes (5 April 2008):
 Lady
All advice below is 100% move out rent a place so you don't disrupt your kids, Why will you lose your business, friends and family? I think this guy has made his feelings clear, do you want your boy to feel he's bad not cared for and unloved? Should I continue to see this man?Why don't he ask you to put him in care adoption or just get rid of so he can still see you his partner and bestfriend! Get real woman he's an arce but atleast he's telling you like it is accept it, move out and love your kids as by the looks of it this guy don't!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): I think you are foolish! NEVER..EVER ALLOW a man to come before your children!
If he cannot accept your child...then he cannot accept you at all. Move on and start over!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Your son should always come first, simple. This shouldn't even be a problem, if he dosen't get on with your child then its over. He sounds very selfish
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reader, I care  +, writes (5 April 2008):
 To me this man ain't worth anything he should love you and your children and if he don't care unconditionally for you and your children send him packing you guys deserve better. To me if someone love you they will do anything to keep it together and that means help you with your children and except them as his own your a package deal and a good mom you need a man not a person that thinks of themselves first. I'm sorry if this come off harsh it's not ment that way I just don't like guys that lead woman on this way and then wreck there lives and their childrens lives. I also don't think what he's making you do is right knowing your going to lose everything and start over you already did that for him once when you moved their To me If you move I would cut =him from your life and find your mr right in someone else. All the best for you and your children.My heart and prayers aresent out to you and your children.
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