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writes:About 6 months ago a friend that I've known for some time now moved across state for a change of scenery and to attend college. He left behind his girlfriend of 4 years. They did not break up and are currently together. We all graduated high school together. I've know this girl almost as long as I've known him but we were never really close. After he left I started taking her out and introducing her to my friends. I'd introduce them to her as said friends girlfriend off the bat to make things clear. Everyone knew her boyfriend but no one knew of her. He kept her sheltered and would never take her out. Only people really close to him knew they were together. A few weeks ago after drinks we ended up back at her apartment. I stayed the night and we shared a bed. The night ended and nothing happened. The next weekend the same situation happened. We had drinks, and I stayed the night. This time though she made a move and started kissing me. I responded with a gentle kiss on the forehead and then rolled over. At first I thought that she was just drunk and in the moment. After a few more "sleep overs" things got deeper. Kissing is the gateway drug. No alcohol was present. But with the same result I started to wonder. So I talked to her about it. She reveals to me that she has always "liked" me. Even before she started dating my friend. She says she sleeps better when I'm around and she enjoys my company. Now I've always views her as a friend. I've always had the mindset of her being 'HIS' girl, and off limits. I have feeling towards her. But I flagged them as just me just wanting to protect her while he is away. Now I think they are changing into something more. She loves her boyfriend. She's told me her heart is with him and I believe it. I'm not looking to change what they have. They are both awesome friends.It's not awkward or anything between her and I. But I know that the kiss wasn't empty and it had meaning. Now I see myself wanting more. My friend visited this weekend and I actually felt jealous. Thanks for reading. Any and all advice welcome!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're right dyeruz, it's not fair. I have reasons for why I don't feel 100% guilty. But that doesn't justify anything. He as made it clear to her that if he found another girl he would drop her. Why they are still together is beyond me. I guess the best advice I can take is to just simmer down abit, and stop sleeping over.
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reader, dyeruz  +, writes (21 March 2010):
What a great friend and girlfriend your mate has! His girlfriend loves him but kisses his best friend and his best friend keeps sleeping over at her place. What advice are you looking for exactly? You know the right thing to do by your friend..it's up to you what road you go down.
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