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My good friend told me this morning he has fallen for me but I don't feel the same way. How do I handle this?

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Question - (3 September 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 September 2012)
A female India age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi,I am from India and i am friends with guy 3 years older than me.Until today morning,everything was just great.We used to hang out and have a great time talking and being goofy with each other and today morning he told me that he is falling for me.I dont feel the way he feels for me.What should I do?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2012):

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. My best friend has stepped away from me by himself and also informed that he wanted some distance from me so that he could arrange his thoughts and get some time away from me.

So here is another question i have in my mind for a really long time.

I was always in my school a very shy and introverted person and was cheated on by a guy who I thought was truly in love with me but sadly it turned out that he was playing a joke on me and i broke up with him. Now the priblem is that I feel that I am not at all aperson who could ever trust a guy. Which is why I have been scared of getting into a relationship and have been single for a year. Is something wrong with me?

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A female reader, Lucky786 United Kingdom +, writes (3 September 2012):

Lucky786 agony auntJust be straight with him, if you say nothing the situation will escalate beyond control which will threaten the friendship you currently have.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012):

You need to be perfectly honest with him about this, there's no room for miscommunication in these situations.

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A male reader, no nonsense Aidan United Kingdom +, writes (3 September 2012):

This is always a very tough conversation to have but just be very honest with him. Explain to him that you do not feel the same for him as he does for you but tell him how much his friendship means to you and how important he is to you. He will probably be worried that he’s ruined the friendship so if you do still want to keep him as a friend explain to him that you can get past this and that it’s okay to have admitted his feelings. He may be upset for a while but honesty is always best and it would be unfair on him to keep him going with false hope. It will have taken a great deal of courage for him to admit his feelings for you, just like it will take a great deal of courage for you to let him down gently. Your friendship may well be even stronger in the end.

I wish you all the very best.

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A female reader, Xoxogurl Algeria +, writes (3 September 2012):

HEY honeey :)

if u dont feel the same way..just tell him that you completely love him as a friend but you dont feel that way..and make sure you tell him how much you love and respect him as a friend and tell him we can be great friends

and dont tell he told you he liked you,if you do tell going around telling people about this..he is going to get embarresed and probably will never talk to you again

Hope you two work it out

xoxo

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A male reader, Mig29 India +, writes (3 September 2012):

Tell him how u feel....period

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