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writes:My gf parents read our adult conversation and are very angry with both of us even when we didnt had ny physical relation we only hold each other hands sometimes and they r also forceing her to marry a guy what to do we both love each other alot but she dont want to go agenst her parents i also dont want that. And other reason for her parents dislike me is i am from different cast Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2014): You are writing an advice column regarding a cultural issue.
There is little anyone can suggest other than that you respect the wishes of her parents. They can make life very difficult for the both of you. If you are from a different cast, then you know how inflexible traditional Indian parents are about that. If they dislike you, they will do everything in their power to keep you away from their daughter. There is nothing you can do, if she is being forced into an arranged marriage.
Unless she is completely defiant of her parents; and willing to sacrifice everything for you. I recommend that you move on and find someone else.
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reader, supermum  +, writes (25 November 2014):
 I would have issues if my daughters partner wrote and spoke the way you do. You have to understand it is their job to do what they feel is best for their daughter.If she is truly being forced to marry someone against her will, the police and authorities can help, she would have to go into a safe house. If she goes along with it and is old enough to consent there is not much you can do.I understand you two love each other. If you want to win the respect of her parents then you need to behave like a gentleman. Talk to her parents about how you feel about her. Ask them why they are going down this path. Ask them what you can do to prove yourself worthy. Don't try to get in her bedroom, don't have private naught conversations. Court her and her family rather than just dating her.You need to be a man here. As she is living with her parents they have every right to be reading her private chats, and if you have been saying anything wrong of course they wont like you! They are trying to protect their daughter.Fight for her (not literally) and prove that you can take care of her. Most of all that is what parents want.And speak to your girlfriend. Find out how she really feels about this because she unfortunately has some very tough decisions to make. I am sorry, this must be awful for you, but there are ways out of it. Only if she is willing though.Good luck my dear, I hope you are able to continue to be together. And remember- be a perfect gentleman. Even if that means having a chaperone when you are together
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