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writes:My girlfriends mother has passed away on tuesday,so she had to go back to where she comes from,I could not go with her because her family doesn't really like me,so now I'm consolling her via texting and calling but she just keeps pushin me away and shutting me out,what do I do
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (20 December 2012):
 HI
This is all still so raw for her, she will be hurt, upset,confused,angry...a whole heap of emotions will be going through her right now so you i'm afraid will be the least of her concerns. All you can do is continue to be there for her, support when she needs or asks for it. She will soon start learn how to deal with this sad loss and will want you by her side. Just give it time ok. I know it must be very hard for you right now knowing that you can't physically be there for her, but she will know your there just by staying possitive for her.
Mandy x
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reader, Dangerously Enthusiastic. +, writes (20 December 2012):
 My mother died when I was 16 and I needed weeks before I could talk to my partner. Give her time. It's very raw still.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (20 December 2012):
 Tuesday is so recent. You need to give her time. She's probably having trouble even processing what happened and is likely going to be grieving and distant for awhile (weeks, months even). Losing a mother is incredibly hard. Giving her space is the best thing you can do. Tell her you're sorry she's going through this, if she needs you you'll be there for her, and then wait for her to contact you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 December 2012):
 Give her some space and time. Losing one's mother is one of the hardest ordeals in life. Be patient and understanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2012): Hi, give her space sh eis grieving the loss of her mum. You might want to swallow your pride and go for her funeral, that will show her that she has your love and support and that nothing will stop you from being there for her. Also if she is distant its not you and not the relationship, she is dealing with a loss and everyone reacts in different ways/.
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