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writes:Hi folksmy girlfriend came home from classes today kinda distant (or so it seemed)When I asked her about it, she didnt respond until later, phoning me to give me some cold shoulder sandwich. I overreacted, said how i didnt deserve that out of the blue. She's not talking to me...How do I handle this without making it worse?? I'm not looking to be right, just supportive, since I have no idea whats wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, quarky  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Man, if I had a penny for everytime I got the cold shoulder... despite the blatantly twisted and sexist comments of the first respondent, I must agree that you shouldn't assume it's anything to do with you dude. Maybe she just had a bad day. if you truly care and she does for you, I'm sure you guys will make up- the best bit about falling out. give her time
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Firstly, her mood may have NOTHING to do with you, and unless you can pinpoint something specific do not even Assume you did anything wrong to begin with.
Stop being so apologetic. You were right to get angery. She is treating you like shit.
The way to handle it, is to NOT lose your temper. Tell her that if she wants to talk to you, you will be open to it, but until she can withhold from treating you like garbage just becuase she is in a foul mood, you will give her as much space as she needs.
Then call every girl you know, and go out with them.
Sometimes, when I was the "other guy", the girl would treat her bfs terribly becuase of the guilt they felt....like I said, her bad mood may have nothing to do with you.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): Sometimes girls just need some space. And we can be moody -- easier to get bitchy w/ the bf than the professor who gave you a D or the pants that suddenly are too tight.
Ask her what is troubling her, let her know that you care, and then back off. Go out with the guys -- not saying get wasted at the bar or hit on girls, just take some time doing you stuff. It doesn't hurt to let her know you care about her, but have a life on your own. Make sure you sit down and have a real conversation in a day or so, and if she was just being snippy for no reason, tell her how it makes you feel and ask her if she could tell you when she's in a bad mood and wants some space.
Women like men with a backbone -- don't be mean, but don't be a doormat!
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