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writes:Hi, I seriously need ur help and advice on my love life and will appreciate every bit of it.I am seriously in love with a girl of 17, just 17 and she is seriously in love wit me. She is ready to do anything to make me happy and im also ready to go outta ma way to keep her smiling. We also have an age diff of 11years as im 28, not a worry tho.She's decided to move out of home and move in with me and wont listen to a word like NO, though its so hard to say no to her cos i love her so much. We have agreed to look out for a 1 bedroom flat together as i currently share a flat wiv a friend n im about to get one. I ve not met her parent, iv spoken to them on da fone tho, but we have plans to go see them at xmas after we sort out da the moving arrangements, because we dont live in da same town.My worries are, my gf's mum is not happy wiv her leaving and wont have anything to do wiv that which i quite understand. They also argue a lot in da house which further my gf's interest in leaving. She phoned me this morning and ask me to book her a train ticket to move in next week but im a bit worried and scared about her mums unhappiness wit her decision. here are the facts1. i love my gf so much and will do all i can to protect her and make her happy.2. i want my gf to leave home wit her mums support and consent but she cant wait.3. im worried if the relationship and the moving in could get me in truoble coz im nt sure.(may be cos ov da age diff n the legalities).I want ur honest advice as I really love ma gf and wanna take the best decisions, so we could get da best out of our relationship.Thankz. Reply to this Question
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reader, catsrock  +, writes (25 November 2008):
Is she planning to move out when she's 18. Keep seeing her and when she moves out it will only be a decision between the two of you, not her mom. Maybe her mom really doesn't have a problem with it in the long run but wants her daughter to go to college or something. Maybe have a talk with your girlfriend and see if she can find ways to show her mom that she's not sacrificing anything for you and that you are very dear to her and she has future plans for her own studies, etc. but that you will be included in her life. If her mom sees this as still a problem, she's not worth any more of you guy's time. It's between the two of you anyway.
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reader, Aunt ~ Em +, writes (27 October 2008):
 I'm pretty sure you can leave home at 16 if you chose to over here. But honestly, I'd be more concerned in getting along with her parents. Keep talking about it... By all means, and perhaps get the flat anyway, let her stop over on weekends... Talk to her parents, with her and see if anything could make them more comfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Unless I'm mistaken, legally she can move wherever the hell she wants from 16 onwards.
You are a good man for not letting her screw up her family like that though... if that doesn't show her parents then nothing will.
She is gonna have to learn she can't always get what she wants, when she wants it. She'll just have to be patient for a bit.
Flynn 24
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 October 2008):
Her fighting with her mum is NOT a good reason for her to move in with you.
Tell her that you want to get her mum's respect and you are not willing to be the reason that a mother and daughter fall out.
Tell her you want to move in with her but want to wait till she is at least 18. She won't even be on full minimum wage yet! How is she going to pay bills and rent? Or is she going to piss off her family and then move in with you and you pay for everything so she feels trapped and she has no where else to go?
Go and see her and sit down with her mum and talk to her about it calmly. Tell her that you want her to approve of you and the move in.
Work out a compromise.
Good Luck!! xx
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