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writes: we was in the local pub a few days ago, and my girlfriend told all are friends that i was averagein bed! she says she loves me more than anything!i just dont know what to do i love her too but i cant foget about what she said, and now i'm to worried to get back in bed with her plus i'm to embarrest to even talk to are friends about it or even just go out to the pub any more, my heads a mess i realy need some help. Reply to this Question
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (7 February 2006):
 Looks to me like she had had a few to many drinks and her mout engaged before her brain did, I am guilty of this a lot and if I could turn back time and un-do what I said I would but that is just not possible.
You must have all been talking about sex, (dodgy pub discussion) She may not have realised you heard or what impact what she said on you had, ( I bet you are brill in bed) she does love you and she is with you so you must be doing something for her !!
Time to tell her what you heard her say, how it made you feel and how you can get past this, she may need to promise not to discuss your sex life in public again in order that you can feel secure in the comapny of your mates again.
Do all this then draw a line under it called " things we should not discuss in pub when drunk" and move on.
Your mates will have forgoten what was said by now so that should not be an issue, but dont stay away from them or the pub or they will start to think there really is something wrong,
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reader, charlie432 +, writes (7 February 2006):
Women don't like to discuss their private lives in public, they will generally make comments like that to avoid the subject, or so as no present females will try to steal you! I understand this has hurt your pride, and maybe it was a way of her subtly telling you that she isn't satisfied (maybe a little harsh I know!)...best bet is, confront her about it, otherwise it will ruin your relationship, ask her when she's feeling most comfertable (maybe even when she's drunk? often works!). I personally wouldn't take it to heart sweetie. Charlie x
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (7 February 2006):
 I think you need to tell her how what happened made you feel and you two need to talk about it. The worse thing you can do is let this thing fester because if you do you run the risk it will grow out of all proportion and cause the relationship serious problems.
I would tell her that you love her too and that you want to please her. Maybe you can discuss ways to spice things up a bit, subtly ask her what her fantasy's are and out of the blue try and fufill one. Obviously a remark like this, especially in such a public forum is going to hurt your self-esteem and hopefully your gf will recognise that she has hurt you. Hope that helps.
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