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writes:What do i do when my girlfriend thinks i take her for granted.I feel like breaking up first. who has got a better plan ?? (I want to marry this girl when im old)for the whole story scroll downHimy girlfriend and I are together for 1 year now.We have had our ups and downs and somehow she was always the one who pushed me away because i showed too much how much i cared and i was there too much. For instance i text her and mailed her whenever i could and she would sometimes reply.I accepted it cuz i loved her really much and she is really beautiful.It did hurt sometimes tho, I was thinking by myself I would always reply to you..anyway it got to the phase where she broke up with me, but miraculously i got her back by dating another girl.that was 8 months ago.now that i see her a lot more often and when I forced myself to only reply her things and not send her anything out of the blue anymore I got fed up with herI even fell in love with another women for a week.She is still the one for me however, she started missing me and she started thinking i took her for granted, which is not true.she does think i take her for granted cuz i give her all the space she wants, im not so needy and she can go wherever she likes i dont care.I used to text her every night but :s i dont do that anymore.I dont want to :s I get laid anyway so why should i :pand when i did put a lot of energy into it she would break up with me.so thats how i think about it.the truth is that she does miss my texts and romances. She loves me a lot, i know that and i love her too and today i didnt reply to her text and this makes her wonder.cuz we had an awesome weekend together and she texted me this afternoon and i didnt reply anything.like i dont give a fuck.i am afraid she is gonna think she does not mean anything to me and i take her for granted.and i know where that leads to, her breaking up with me.I also heard that if you do give a fuck about her, she will only walk over you which i've experienced 8 months ago.I could do a lot of romance blabla but she is out of my heart. It would not be genuine anymore.She was in my heart but she screwed up when she broke up with me. besides im getting lazy cuz i really dont care so much, as i said i get laid anyway. lol and the more i dont care the more she starts to getting me laid so that I wont get it anywhere else (which she is afraid of, this weekend she asked me if i was cheating on her)which is not true and i could prove it a lil to her(you cant really prove those things :s but i gave her my cellphone)so how do i save our relationship from here.I think she is gonna break up with me in about a month if i dont act up now, she might even cheat on me next tuesday and then dump me. which is one of the worst case scenarios.it could be worse, her chaeting on me tomorrow with one of her ex bf's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!anyway what do i do when my girlfriend thinks i take her for granted.I feel like breaking up first. who has got a better plan ?? (I want to marry this girl when im old)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey girls :)
Responding to: A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008):
I think she would break up with me too if she read this, but of course I havent told her really what i think of it.
On the other hand she thinks all kinds of things herself, which I dont know.
honestly i think im a jerk, but i used to be her dog i loved her so much but she didnt treat me well either.
It hurts
Imagine i would do everything for her, and she just rejects me even though im her bf.
responding to MissWendlemoot:
if she would not want to have sex with me anymore I would say thats okay honey
and i would cheat and forget her even more.
responding to Fade878:
Why do you think she has cheated? what makes you think that ?
I think you are right though, I was worried about this too for a long time
but after a while i got numb, i just did not care so much anymore.
Please tell me why you think that, i dont know a woman's mind i think you know more about it :)
I hope she finds this post too, but not anytime soon though :P
I would like to thank the 3 of you for posting a reply, it helps to know what other people think of this. I cant ask anyone of my neighborhood because she might find out. Also its none of other people's business
Im glad you people replied :) And i think you are all right about the situation, where can I get counseling? how does it work
also i think im gonna love her more. But when she treats me like shit I will first talk to her, and when she continuous I will get rid of her
thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): you dont txt her back even tho you know this will upset her and dont care about getting lazy because you'll get laid anyway...? if i was her id dump your a** right now...you're not treating her well at all...and you wanna marry her? you really do need to go to counseling or maybe read some books online because this is not healthy
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Well why do you want to be mean to someone you care about?
What would you do if she decided not to have sex with you anymore?
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