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writes:I always erect when I see my girl naked, I want to stop it. Pliz help! She thinks I do it intentionally. Reply to this Question
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reader, 1996Woodstock  +, writes (31 March 2010):
Tell her: You cannot help it because she is beautiful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): Sweety id be flattered if my boyfiend got an erection when im naked, these days he usually looks the other way! Tell her to be happy you find her so attractive. A few years from now she will be complaining you DONT get erections. She needs to count her blessings and look on it as a compliment
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): Well, there are drugs that will destroy your sex drive and then you will not be aroused by seeing her naked. Of course, you will also not have any desire for sex if she wants it and then she will be able to complain that you don't find her sexually attractive.
I particularly like Not My Name's answer. I think that you just have to tell her that you are turned on by her when she is naked and it does not mean that you want sex all the time. Getting an erection when you see an attractive naked woman is a male natural response. It is out of your control.
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 You always get erect when you see your girlfriend naked and she doesn't appreciate it? Wow.
I can see from one point of view where if you're physically aroused, she may feel pressured to 'release your tension' when you respond to her, physically. If that's the case, it could potentially be really damned irritating if it really happens every time.
Just explain to her that you love her, and you can't help it- she is beautiful naked, and she should appreciate that you find her so attractive that you can't hold him down! But let her know that you aren't pressuring her for sex when it happens- you're just enjoying being with someone who excites you that much. I'm sure her response to it is a complete misunderstanding of signals.
Just in addition- younger women have been groomed to believe that men want sex every second of every day. It becomes hard for us to decipher your signals when you are putting the moves on us. Especially if you tend to use a lot of the same moves when you're just cuddling/making out and not intending it to end in intercourse. Be blunt. Tell her you want her- that way when you really do want her, she knows, and will be a lot more likely to take you up on the offer.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 Say her that it is god's gift, and do not count it as a question, seeking answer. There are many many wife, who complaint about her husband that loss interest in sex, they seek some idea about 'treatment'. Even male begin to feel it trouble, when they feel trouble in erection. Erection is health, and no weakness of the body. This is the way of counting something good.
Erection do not means, go for ejaculation through intercourse, but enjoy the heaven.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): I think you your girlfriend would be more upset if you did not get an erection when she was naked.
Talk to her and tell her it is because you find her so attractive etc.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 I don't see the problem unless she get's offended by it, ..in which case gather up some literature to show her that it is not a consciously controlled response and therefore you can't stop it unless you can stop yourself being attracted to her.
I am sure she would not want you to not be attracted to her so she should take it as a compliment that you seeing her naked get's you aroused. If she feels perhaps you are wanting sex more often than herself, just explain to her tho that it does not always mean that is what you are planning/wanting. It is ok to get aroused and let it subside again without having to do anything with it or about it.
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