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writes:I am from Pakistan but moved to US one year ago. Just in matter of one month, I fell in love with a beautiful American girl who happened to be 8 years younger than me. She is very nice and always takes care of me like a prince. She's got me accommodated in her room and doesn't let me pay the half rent. She thinks that I am the most purest "At heart" person in this universe and I can never do wrong. I think the same about her but due to this high expectation, I always have this insecurity doing rounds in my head that if I do something wrong unintentionally , she will dump me straight away . After all I am human being and there is possibility of human errors. Though me doing something nasty is out of question but still how can I should make her understand that I am human not angel? Any suggestion from you people would be appreciated . If every American girl is like her, then they are the world's most precious creature and I am so blessed to have it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): Its called love, and yes love is blind. It always has been and always will be.
I wouldnt worry about this, unless you really think you are capable of breaking this girls heart, then you're leading her on for a heartbreak.
Is this a confidence issue with you? You cant understand why someone would be so head over heels about you?? If so you need to look deeper into yourself and ask why you're uncomfortable with this.
Accept her love gratfully and love her in return.
Stop worrying that you will loose your halo and she will dump you, relax and enjoy being together.
Good luck.x
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 July 2011):
 Not all girls will be like her. It's an individual thing, not a thing dependent on nationality, or even upbringing.
First I'd think about why she thinks you can do nothing wrong. Is it because she is naive and inexperienced? Because that would mean she's put you on a pedestal, and if you fall down she'll get heartbroken and leave. Ultimately, she's setting the relationship up for disaster, building this fantasy around you that you can do no wrong.
However, is she saying you can do no wrong because she loves you? Meaning, you can do no wrong that would make her stop loving you? In this case, it is unconditional love, like the love from a parent to the child. The child can be a brat, and do many wrong things, but still always be loved. If this is the case then you can do errors, but she will still be with you through thick and thin.
Maybe you should talk to her about it and see which one it is, and also explain your fears and ask her how she'd react if this or that happened. Other than that you will have to let time give you the answer.
PS. Watch out for her being the submissive type of person. There is the third option that she is, and is placing you above her, seeing you as the one who is always right, will do no wrong, and should be followed despite what her own mind tells her. This would be a very self destructive pattern (meaning she's got no self respect or confidence), as she'd never speak up even if you did do wrong, and you wouldn't ever get to know how she truly feels. Eventually it'll blow up in your face... which is why this is so dangerous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): No, every American girl is not like yours. You are a lucky man. :-)
I think you may be interpreting the word 'angel' literally, when she is using the word metaphorically.
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