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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have recently become very distant from my boyfriend. I have been away for three weeks, in within those three weeks i found confinement in my friends and didn't miss my boyfriend at all. Lately, one of my friends has also been tempting me to cheat on him. Anyway, during my time away and now that i'm back, I don't want to be intimate with my boyfriend anymore. I don't have any desire to make out, or do sexual things. We havn't had sex, but we've done everything but. And I don't want to do those things anymore. I value the emotional side of our relationship in that he's there for me, and we talk and keep eachother company, but the physical side is gone for me. He said to me he won't go backwards in the relationship and stop being intimate. So what do I do? Do I wait this out and hope it just passes over? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): The relationship is over and you are not being honest with yourself.
You want the emotional crutch of a supportive person but you don't want to offer anything in return.
Fact is, without intimacy and romance there is no loving relationship.
Face up to why you feel this way and then decide if you can change it. If not, then do the right thing and end it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): It sounds like you've already ended the relationship, but you just haven't made it official yet.
I don't blame him for not wanting to 'go backward' but it wouldn't be fair to either of you to have sex with him just to keep him around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): "Lately, one of my friends has also been tempting me to cheat on him."Which means two things, firstly, this person is not a friend, not a friend at all. True friends don't do this to you, people do this to bring you down, because that is what cheating does, it degrades you (not the person you cheat on).So, get new friends.Secondly, you are having some sort of a crisis, and you don't know what is happening to you, or you aren't telling anyone that here. Figure that out before you make any decisions.Three things ruin even good relationships faster than anything else, drugs/alcohol, dishonesty, and bad company. So, whichever you are keeping, get rid of them, and at least you are keeping bad company.You will be tempted to cheat many times in life, but temptation is just that if you are honest, with yourself and others, understand your own wants and needs for what they are, and don't have others swaying your mind and corrupting your feelings, or are not intoxicated.
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