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writes: My girlfriend is from The Philippines where she works at a bar in Japan to send money home to her family and to her daughter. At this bar guys walk in and pay drinks for the girls. The girls sit with the guy and talks with him. Some get sexual and rub the guy's penis, and some charge money to take the guy to a back room to give head or give a handjob or sex.She says that she feels disgusted about what she does, but it's the only thing she can do to make money and send home to her daughter. She refuses to have sex, but a few times has taken the guys to the back for a handjob or blowjob and all she thinks about is that shes doing this for her daughter. Most the time she says she just sits with the guy then that's it. But now since meeting me, she plans on quitting her job after the contract is up in six months, and gives me her word that she wont take guys to the back anymore and will just sit and talk to the guy. I really love this girl but wonder if I should believe her from what she promises. Should I affiliate with someone who has a job like that?
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reader, pops +, writes (28 August 2005):
You are already working with considerable differences just from being from two different countries and cultures. Now, she is a hooker, too? And you expect her to be faithful to you once you are married? Get serious. I don't think so. Yes, she has a desparate life, and needs money to keep her daughter, but she is probably also the main support for her extended family, too. Besides the STD problem, she is just not likely to turn the other way if some guy offers her enough money for sex. Its a bad habit to break. Yes, there are a few " reformed" hookers out there, but don't get involved with a hooker who is still working, and expect you will be able to reform her. Wait to see the finished product before getting involved.
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (28 August 2005):
It seems a little strange, but I think it could work if you're comfortable with what she's done already. It sounds like she hates her job and she's quitting, maybe in part because she's happy she's found you. She is trying to provide for a daughter and that leads people to desperation as they sacrifice themselves for their child. If you are comfortable with her past and her daughter, I believe you could find something there. She sounds like a noble person to me. If you have any reservations in your mind about the things she's done in her line of work, I would stay away because this will always be in the back of your mind when you touch her.
"All that you need is in your soul" Lynyrd Skynyrd
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (28 August 2005):
 Sweetheart..what I am about to say is going be hard maybe for you to hear. This is not a good healthy relationship for you. Handjob, blowjob, sitting and flirting...I don't think it is talking about the wars in Iraq at the moment or world hunger they are talking about...it is cheating on you. Guys who get a blow job...don't just sit there and say "thanks mam, appreciate that"..they grope and fondle. For crying out loud..she is being intimate with other guys, yes we understand it is for her daughter and stuff. On a more important note, her profession...is not exactly healthy. She runs the risk of acquiring STD's. Not just the ones that we hear about but the others that are not as important like genital warts, herpes, all sorts of rashes in her mouth and her hands...you need to think of yourself here. I know you must love her but don't be silly with your love. She gives guys handjobs and blowjobs...so you are willing to kiss this girl all passionately after she has given how many blow jobs? Think about it. Honey, right now her daughter is most important to her and believe me if a guy were to offer money again to go in the back for these things...she will do it..for her daughter. I am not jiving with you on that. It is your choice though, this is intimacy with other people...strangers...take care..ana
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reader, closetfreak +, writes (28 August 2005):
if you truly believe her then stick with her if not then move on its your call
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