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26-29,
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writes:Hi there, well me and my girlfriend have being going out for over 8 months now and there is a 2 year age gap, but it doesnt make a difference to be honest. I thought everything was going alright, then i found out that she still has feelings for this one boy that is the first person she had feelings for, and they are in the same class and flirt all the time and get really close and stuff, and she said he looks like he's about to kiss her but she cant take her eyes off him. I really dont know what to do, and im upset, cause she says she loves me but i dont know anymore? Should i break it up with her or give her an ultimatum between me and him? Please help. Thanks.
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reader, Prestigejayjay  +, writes (10 May 2011):
Hey,
Just sit your Girlfriend down and pour out your mind before taking any step either to quit or not.
Let her understand that you cant afford to share her with her Ex or any other person. Saying that She loves you should not be only the word of mouth.
Let her choose between you and her First love, and if she is choosing her first love, dont even act as if it is paining you cos u can still ans always be BEST OF FRIEND.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): Hi Mandy, we have had a talk about it and she says she cant stop flirting, she is going away on a school trip and this boys on it, so i was thinking should i ask her if she would rather be with me or him after that or should i do it tonight? thanks :)
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reader, hope_i_could_help  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 First of all, maybe you should not see what's wrong with your girlfriend, but see and know what's wrong with you that makes her want another guy's affection. But if there's really nothing wrong in how you show your affection towards your girl then she's the problem. I think you should talk to her about that first before going to drastic conclusions and decisions. First of all you have the right to get upset about her flirting with other guy. Talk to her and tell her what you really feel. Let it out! Secondly, ask her if there's something wrong with your relationship and fix it together. Thirdly, go out and hang out more with her. Spend more time with her and make her forget about the "other guy". Never take her for granted if you never want her to flirt with other guys again. Lastly, show her and be open about how you feel about her. Let her feel your love. Be the person she can depend. Also be sensitive to what your girlfriend feels. It's not always about you but it's always the two of you.If that doesn't work, then I think you should ask her if she still loves you and if your relationship is worth saving and continuing. If she said no, then you have no choice but to break up, but prove her wrong! Show to her that she lost the very person who could love her more than any person she could be with. Gud Luck about it... Hope this could help you...
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (10 May 2011):
 Hi
I would just ask her straight if she would rather be with this other boy, if she says yes, then all you can do is move on and learn from this experience. If she says no, then tell her how upset this is making you feel, and that your not upset she has a male freind, just upset the way she is acting around him. I dont think you should break up with her just yet, just be open and honest with her, then see were you go with that first.
I hope this has helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): You guys are obviously young, still in school. If this is something you can't handle then yes, maybe you need to move on. There's no way she should be flirting and dealing with someone else she has feelings for and dealing with you. Sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants right now. which is common for KIDS...you just need to enjoy your life right now and don't sweat the small stuff. Besides if she says she loves you and your confident that she's just yours you shouldn't worry about it.
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