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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend says I am not the man she thought I was, and now won't consider moving in or taking the relationship further. We are stuck in limbo!We have been dating for 3 years. A year and half ago I did something stupid at work, I stole. Not something I’m proud of but I confessed to her at the time and she split up with me because of it. 2 months after that we got back together because she said she loved me and cant be without me. But its been slowly going downhill since then.She has been emotionally and physically distant since we got back together. Then yesterday she says its because I’m not the man she thought I was, cause that man would never have stolen. She said we were living a lie before the split.I made a mistake, but it hasn’t changed who I am. Yet to her it has changed me completely into someone else. We were happy before the split so how could it have been living a lie?How can we overcome this before it tears us apart for good?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Sadly , it is very difficult to change some one's perspective when they have hardened their stands.
It is her perceptions of you that have changed .The only honourable thing for you to do is to let her go .
If you love her, let her go and if she comes back to you , then she is yours.
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