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My girlfriend says a condom is enough, I don't agree

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Question - (3 June 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 4 June 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Me and my girlfriend are wanting to have sex, is a condom safe enough on it's own.

She doesn't want to go on the pill, she says a condom is safe enough but I am a little concerned.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012):

Just use the pull out method as your back up. That way even if the Condom breaks or has a hole then you'll be protected.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012):

Many women feel sick when they are on the pill or experience other side effects like dryness or bloating.

I just want to point that out in case you think the only reason she wouldn't go on the pill is that she doesn't care about you. (Which seems to be what GreenMaryJane was implying.)

Condoms work well, but no method is 100% so it isn't a bad idea to have back up, but I don't think getting accusatory or pressuring her to go on it "if she really loves you" will do anything but hurt your relationship. Try researching other secondary methods together instead!

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A female reader, Tez7 United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2012):

hi there,

the condom does work quite well, especially against std's so its always a good idea to use them.

but they aren't perfect, put it this way my parents used the condom and the pill together and i still appeared!

im not trying to panic you the condom is very strong but if you still feel concerned just explain this to her.

plus there are other types of protection she can use besides the pill if she prefers?

hope this helps a bit!

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A female reader, auntyR United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2012):

A condom is fine to use on it's own as long as you use it properly, but if you both want to be extra careful then there are other options. If he does not want to take the pill then maybe look into other contraceptives. There is the implant and the injection for instance. By having one of these she does not need to worry about taking a pill every day.Maybe suggest other options.

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A female reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2012):

Xx-Scorpio-xX agony auntMe and my boyfriend only use condoms, so it's perfectly safe :) No method is 100% effective anyways, and condoms are the only way to protect you against both pregnancy and STI's :)

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A female reader, GreenMaryJane Sweden +, writes (3 June 2012):

GreenMaryJane agony auntA condom is enough, trust me.

But if you really want it to be safer tell her to start goin on the pill. If she really cares she will and tell her that to.

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