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writes:Last year in August 2007 I met a girl through a friend I met at my job. She was from japan and had been here 6 months prior to meeting me and had 6 months left before completing her year of English school study. I am learning japanese and I know enough that we communicated fine with minor issues. The relationship had some rocky points only 2 which we fixed and got over because I explained to her I like to keep everything honest and open from the first day which I believe helped a lot. At first I thought she just wanted to meet an American guy or a black guy, and I believe she did but there was a time when we has a loong discussion and dealt with it. She admitted she was stupid in the beginning but now with myself I have changed that idea and I really believe her. She has never lied to me, and I can easily tell when people are lying to me, Especially if the dont speak ENG well.. Call it a gift I guessWell Sunday 1 week ago she left back to japan but prior to that we had the best relationship I have ever had and I truly believe it was in part to how I was always honest and we were both true to our feelings. It sucked because there was always a clock in my mind she is leaving but it was an amazing relationship and we said we want to meet again. I am not typing all the discussions we had because its too long but she told me at LAX that I really changed her life and before she was a really low self esteem prson and I helped her to be confident and know she is beautiful etc. I cried for the first time in5 years even though ive had deaths in the family, breakups, etc but this was worst. I love this girl and she loves me. It was good because the day before she left we had a talk about everything we wanted to say to each other at the beach. We finally told each other I love you, and even though I felt it before I wanted to make sure you know? And that when we said it it was powerful which is was and she knew it too when she waited to say it. Anyway she is gone, this December (10 months) I am visitng japan, and she said I can stay with her and her dad said yes too (her mom passed away in 06) so she is with her older sister and her dad. Our homepages still say in a relationship and she asked me if she could leave hers like that and I said its fine mine is the same too. But she knows she is free to do whatever she wants as well as me. I used skype for the first time yest and it was cool I was happy to see her. As was she. She showed someone she knows me on the webcam and introduced me as her boyfriend. And truthfully I still introduce her as mine too its because I dont know it feels good and right. My question is, we both probably wont get boyfriend or girlfriend by December because she has to work and I have school and work. We both admittd we would be upset if we met someone but we would let each other know. After December though she will visit LA sometimes but won't be back for a while or to stay for maybe 2-3 years. Again my question is if we meet other people, have good relationship but breakup with them (most likely because if other reasons, than our special reason for spliting) and she came back and we were both single do you think we could date again? I dont like to " burn my bridges" so to speak so a wonderful girl like her I want to not forget her. We are keeping in touch because we both hate flaky people so we will talk, online. I have her info in japan address and phone numbers. Do you think even after meeting other people and leaving them we could talk again? I want her to be my girlfriend, before my friend. Both or none. Because when we were together she felt like a friend we were that comfortable, but with love and physical so we were boyfriend and girlfriend. She wrote to me "I will always love you and I can be your girl whenever you need me. Or if you want me and we wanna be together. Even if the whole world is against you, I love you and I'm here for you anytime"What do you think guys? Please help me, I really love her and I know we will meet others but our breakup was a rare kind for only the fact she is leaving. If I breakup with a girl here it would most likely be she cheated or something negative u know? Please reply soon thanks so much I really need help
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reader, beedo +, writes (26 February 2008):
beedo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell I'm not trying exactly to keep her as a reserve became financally, academically, and time wise its better she's not here because I am a student u know. But I just liked having her here, when she was my problems didnt mean anything and my spending money to hang out (we always paid 50/50 but hanging out can still be expensive) we both didnt care about those things. I guess I DO want her around but not a reserve. Its because later we can maybe see each other if we are single , or want to be together again. Anymore people have suggestions? :) thanks I really need help.
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reader, emsy0002005  +, writes (25 February 2008):
it seems to me that your keeping this girl as a resevre because you dont want to be alone if your meant to be together love will always find a way
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