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writes: Why does my girlfriend talk and talk about herself and her family and her part time job and does not talk about 'us' or me and stuff.When I pick her up after work she just talks and talks about her shift and what she did and its gets too much. She doesn't ask if i had a good day or anything lol!What can I do about this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Maybe she has an image problem. I've known people like that. Maybe she is just incredibly self centered.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (18 October 2006):
 I know how you feel, but she probably does not realise she does this.
My fiancee is the same sometimes, well she was until I told her.
I feel this started early in the relationship and eventually became 'normal habit'.
Just tell her how you feel, I am sure she will make the effort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006): I agree with the first response, however, something else may come into play here...has she always been chatting non stop about herself and you are just finally noticing and getting tired of it? Some women suffer from nervous talking... they are uncomfortable with silences between people and they talk and talk just to fill the void, it is a habit and does not mean they are not interested in you...sometimes it helps to draw attention to this habit, talk candidly about it and ask for some reciprocity and see if that doesn't help to change things...she may not realize she is doing this to you, tell her she does not need to feel nervous around you if she has nothing to say or wants to just relax for awhile and be quiet.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (16 October 2006):
 It sounds like this girl needs a wake up call. She seems to be forgetting that she's not the only person in the world and we don't all revolve around her! You're in a relationship with her and the interest in each others lives should be equal.
I advise you to just start talking to her about your day and see how she reacts. If she's quiet for long enough to listen, she might realise that you actually have some good stuff to say! If she isn't, just stop her and say "do you mind if I speak for a bit?" She obviously doesn't realise she's doing this and needs to be reminded that you're not her counsellor!
People who are very wrapped up in themselves and self centred usually don't change very much. They can try, if they want to make something work out, but that's usually their personality. Maybe you should try looking for someone who's a bit more interested in you and the relationship as opposed to just herself.
Good luck
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