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writes:My girlfriend of two and a half years says she wants to take a year out of college to get a job and an apartment in the city so she can go on an alcohol, drug and sex fuelled year without me. ...And she expects me to be ok with it. It's truly breaking my heart but whenever I seem upset around her she says I’m a wimp and that I should be more of a man. I just don't understand. We loved each other so much and I thought we were happy together but she informed me she was bored with me and wants some fun and isn't ready to settle for just me but wants me to wait for her when she has had enough. She says she doesn't mind me seeing someone else either but I only want her. Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 She doesn't sound like she wants a relationship. Let her do her thing. At least she told you before she started. Give her credit for that. Although she might be making a mistake, at least she was honest with you.
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reader, Fidelity-ET  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Let her do what she wants, there's no point tying her up with you even though that's what you desperately want to do - it's understandable.
Do go on with your life, hard as though it may be to do, I think you should establish your own path, with or without her by your side and try dating others too. Easier said than done I know but she's more likely to go behind your back if you make her stay with you.
As for the wimpy thing, I think it's ok for guys to be slightly emotional but stereotypes suggest they're not so not much I can advise in that section
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Let the girl go. If you make her stay with you, she's most likely going to cheat on you because there was no creative sexual experimental stage for her. AND, when you said "We loved each other" - are you seriously sure about that, or is this just another way of saying "I love her a lot and I *think* she loves me too".
That's the thing with the young uns'. The transitional stage between high school and adulthood - the experimental stage where you are legal to drink to livers' content, and screw around like there is no next hour.
To cut this short, and easier said than done, but just let her go and find your own way. People change easiest at your stage in life. The world is a huge place and the experiences are nearly limitless.
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