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writes:Hey there, Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 1 1/2 years. We have a pretty strong relationship but there is one problem. She never wants sex. She tells me that she just doesnt like it. Its as basic as that. I mean about 6 months ago we had it quite regularly and recently its just got more and more infrequent. Is there anything I can do. All I get when I ask for it is, no I really dont want it and she will feel sorry and offer to just pleasure me. We have had sex where she doesnt want it and I really feel bad for it.Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): im 19 and just got engaged. been together 4 yrs so far. when we started out the first year we were like rabbits... 6 times a day every day! at least ! and she was open to bj's, hand jobs, any posision, anywhere! these days i just come short of having to beg most of the time and she doesnt bring up sex at all, but i feel bad asking her more than twice. only happining 1-2 times a week IF im lucky... i tryed telling her i wasnt going to bring up sex.. just leave it up to her and i actually went through with it.... for about 3 weeks. then i had to say somethin. now when we have sex she wont do anything but a couple dif posis. no bj or handjob or pics or vids. only on the bed... when we do have sex she moans LOWED!!! she says and acts like she enjoys it but not til we're doin it... oh... cant go near anal or eating her. and those are my faves.... i dont know if i have any decent advice but with your age, she hasnt developed all the way down there yet (or she's scared of pregnancy or desease or something) talk her through getting on birth control just to be safe and always pull out anyways... make her as confy as possible and she might do it more.. u'll have to wait a few yrs. b4 girls that age develope all the way down there and it starts feeling good for her. just be happy you get what u get and dont push sex hard enough to make her uncomfortable about it or feel like she has to do it to make you happy... let me know if this helps you or anybody else or if i just sound lame
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): I have been with my partner for 2 ½ years, when we first got together we had sex a lot. Now we don’t have it as much because sometimes I just don’t want it, however this does upset my boy friend as he feels I’m rejecting him. You need to look at your relationship and make sure you are not making her feel that it is all about sex, when I say this is mean, every time you see each other do u have sex?.... you need to make sure you have time together for talking or just cuddling, show her you want to be there for her as us females can be funny when it comes to sex. Also try romancing her, flowers, complements, kissing slowly, touching or massage, bring the mood round, not just quick kissing then into the bed. Ensure she know its means something to you, both of you being intermit. Hope it works out for you…..
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 Dude,
one thing, never force a girl to have sex when they don't want it.
Secondly you might just have to ask yourself are you doing enough to make her want to have sex. Girls need to be warmed up, lots of foreplay is required, do you do this or is it a bit of fondling and pants down time.
Be honest.
failing all that, she may just not like sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): some people just don't like it .... maybe she's afraid of gettign pregnant or STD's maybe IDK . don't pressure her tho.... that will get you no where fast. Some people have higher sex drives then others... Maybe you should tyr diffrent ways to seduce her ?? maybe diffenet kinds of sex ? IDK be creative !!! lol
just don't make her do anything that she doesn't want to do ok?
I hope this helped in some way .....
Message me anytime !!
take care and I hope everything works out for you !!
*~VG~*
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