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anonymous
writes:Hey i have a problem im 17 and so is my girlfriend we are currently in a long distance relationship. My problem isn't the distance its she likes to drink she doesn't do it often but when she does she goes over bored last weekend i was very ill and ended up being hospitalized instead of being there for me she ended up hanging out with some girlfriends of her and started doing shots of vodka not in the hospital yet this made me feel worse when see started texting me drunk. I told her earlier that day i didn't want her to drink she said she wouldn't she was only going to a restaurant. then she texted and said don't stay up for me im going to my friends and thats when everything went down hill. The next day she said she would never drink again but my problem is she said this before and started getting trashed again i hate alochol so much and don't know what to do. She won't listen she just says im nagging her and its her life she will do as she wants. advice please
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): Hey man, don't listen to that noise. You have some say in what your girlfriend does. I mean take parents. My father doesn't like it when my mom or anyone in my family drinks and they listen. Though this isn't a marriage, it is a loving relationship. Just tell her how you feel. And ask why she drinks. This will probably stump her and she wont know why
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): You are nagging her and you're being controlling too. That was pretty crappy of her not to visit you in the hospital but you have no right to demand she doesn't drink just because you don't like it.
She's going to keep drinking because it's part of her social life and she doesn't do it often anyway. So you either accept that she's going to do that and stop being so bossy or you move on and find a girl who doesn't drink. All you're doing is making her feel bad because she does something most girls her age and all her friends do, just because you don't like it. That's not fair at all. You can't demand something like that, so either accept it or walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2011): I think you should break up with her. This isn't going to change. Someone who goes out drinking when you're in the hospital is not a person you want to be with. She may be alcoholic and you don't want to be involved with that. Take care.
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