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writes: Ok, im Actually 16, i put the wrong age (duh) lol anyhoo. ive ben with my girlfriend since i was 9, it was actually more like friends who became closer overtime, anyhoo im 16 now, and shes 22, im not sure if id call this a problem or not, its more like restrain. anyhoo i lost my virginity to her when i was 13, and weve ben doing it ever since, the problem is, shes a little rough, or you could say she like it (Really) rough, i have gone thru 5 beds in the last 2months, and every time we (Do It) she ends up always being on top, (which isnt a badt thing) but my beds keep breaking because she does it too hard, i ask her to slow it down and go softer, but when we have sex, shes like a different person, and when ever we do it, she is always on top, and she does it so hard i hard to go to the hospital once, Slightly Bruised Pelvis, we stopped for awhile after that, but when i was healed she was rough again, not (as rough, but enuff to make it hurt a bit, and me spend more money on beds, i have asked her to go softer, as i said, but when i do, she always says she cant finish if we go soft, so what im really asking is are there any suggestions on what i should do? or how i can make it better without her getting all emotional and what not? i love her and everything, weve ben togethter for a long time, i just dont want things to go sour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): Discuss with her the fact that you dont enjoy being used so roughly and plan a `safe` word with her. Agree before she starts her assault, that if she hears the safe word she HAS to ease up or you will end the session. That should work.
But personally i think you are mad to allow this woman to use you in this way. Lets face it, theres a name for anyone of 19 whos having sex with a 13 year old child! You may think its all great at the moment but when you are grown and maybe the father of a 13 year old daughter. And a guy much older who should know better, is wanting to have sex with her, you will be headin for the gun rack!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 This is not good.... your age gap is wrong at the moment, and that means she's using you rather than treating you as an equal adult. She couldn't do this with a man her own age. She needs to be in control, and because your younger she dosen't listen to what you say or care about your feelings or your pain. Your parents are silly to allow you to become involved with a woman like this. She's a predator, and one day you'll grow older and be too old for her and she will find someone younger. When you are older and your body fully develops she will find ways to make you feel small and inadequate. Love means listening to the other person and try to make sure they are happy two. It dosen't mean always being on top, and having the type of hard sex that hospitalizes you. This woman is bad news, and as you get older you'll see that for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShes not Totally ignoring me, she has gonae alot softer, i mean i normally ben accustomed to the rough sex 4 awhile, so its not quite as bad, and supposedly she cant finish unless we do it rough. i have ben ontop recently and when i am, she always curls her legs (Real tight around me and grabs my ass and forces me in her, no that i dont like it, but it can get a little out of hand sometimes, and its the same with doggy, well sorta, im backed up against the wall, and she pushes back (real) hard, i live alone, (Long Story) and when she backed up against me, she sorta broke and put me thru the wall! i mean im not what youd call hurting 4 money, but id really just ratherstop paying for it all together. and the same applys to oral as well, she might aswell be sucking it right off, its like putting it in a black hole lol oral with her is a little better, except 4 the fact that shes pretty much ripping my penis off with her mouth, everything is good between us, great infact, it can just get a lil rough sometimes.
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reader, poetrygoddess  +, writes (5 December 2009):
holy crap that's a wild woman! I don't like it that rough but my boyfriend and I have done it in the forest, back seat of a car, dressing rooms at the mall, and even bedrooms and being on the ground or on a bench hurt my tailbone and left me aching cuz I love him on top. he likes when I'm on top though. But I love the feeling of his body on top of me. As for ur girl, tell her sex isn't pleasant if the bed breaks and u have to go to the hospital. Tell her if she cares about you, she'll stop all that roughness. She should respect your wishes. Just tell her gently like "honey, I love having sex with you, but I don't like when you hurt me. Can you ease up a bit? It's not exactly hot for me to end up in the hospital" and cuddle her when u say it. It should go smoothly!
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reader, pinkgoblin15 +, writes (5 December 2009):
 Oh good lord O_O lol. All I can say to you is stop having sex on your bed and start having sex in other places with one of those O ring pillows so she can't hurt your pelvis anymore!! lmfao But seriously bro change your routine if your on top she's not gonna be controlling how fast your gonna need to buy a new bed lol
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