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writes:WHY does god hate me.... i gave everythign for the one girl... we were so happy for so long... we were engaged and she got pregnant and we were so happy... now shes leaving me only 2 months into the pregnancy because i "aggrivate" her to much. we were laughing and kissing yesterday..... I love her so much and its just.... WHY what can i do.... Shes horridly mad cause i put it on myspace she was pregnant long after everyone already knew... She isnt who i fell in love with but i still love her so much... what do i do... I cant lose her, she is all i have left... and i dont want to be excluded from my daughters life either....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): I did tell you.*smiles*.Just be patient with her.Take good care of her.God bless you guys!
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reader, Inumuro +, writes (5 November 2008):
Inumuro is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt all worked out. Only because she was smarter than me. to be completely honest i gave up and wa just looking for a reason to die but she came to me and cried on me and begged me to forgive her and told me she never meant it... I cant help but forgive her.. I love her so much, thanks for the advice, i wont this happen again ^.^
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): I understand what you are going through. My fiance is pregnant and I have no idea what to do. We are mere weeks away from the wedding and sometimes she acts like I am the most horrible person in the world. Sometimes it is just the opposite. All I can tell you is listen to your heart. I am obviously not a female and do not understand it from their perspective. I do however understand yours. It is hard to be on the other end of the roller coaster. I love my fiance more than anything. We have a home together and I work insane hours. This is placing a strain on things too. Patience is a virtue my young friend. I guess the best thing I can tell you is to remember why you are with her in the first place, remember how she used to act, and pray. God will never lead you astray. My rosary beads have been my best friend. I totally understand though. Love is a tough thing sometimes as are hormones. The latter aren't going anywhere for 7 more months so the love has to stay. Give her time I guess. I wish I could be more helpful. I really don't know what I am trying to say other than there is someone else out there that understands your point of view. Good luck and God Bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): I know its tough for you to envision what I am asking you to do.But please do try.
*Every morning when you wake up the floor tilts,you are not able to place one foot properly next to the other
* you seemed very healthy and suddenly lifting your head from the pillow takes an effort
* you are hungry,you want to eat but all you can do is puke your guts into the washbasin.
* you hope you can have a bed near the washroom as running often to throw up is not advisable in your condition
* Your life changes as now you are responsible for another wonderful small human being inside you.you panic.
* Hormones are running helter skelter.All you want to do is strangle the guy who caused this.
Now that you have got the picture,2nd month is very difficult to handle.The dizziness is unbearable.What you are going through is very normal.What she is going through is very normal as well.I used to yell at my husband all the time.He got yelled at for wearing perfume(as this made me puke),for getting me something to eat(as the sight of food made me puke),for getting me gifts(as the sight of gifts made me puke)(laughing now).He was so patient as he loves me a lot.This is the key.LOVE.It is patient and kind.It can overcome anything and everything. You need to distract her by taking her to parks.fresh cool air relaxes a pregnant lady.Explain her that this is normal.You will always be there for her every step of the way even when she is screaming bad names in the delivery room.She is entitled to her mood swings.Be there for her.Give her some time.Give her leg massages ,back rubs(heaven),let her know in myriad little ways that you care for her and your baby.Don;t worry.Its just a phase.It will pass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): " Qcumbr 1" is very right, hormones can have a big effect on pregnant women and can make them react very different to what you would normally expect. I think you need to give her lots of love and affection. Be patient and you can expect more irritations and misunderstandings, but try to be patient and understanding. She is not "herself" right now. Hang in there, it will get better again.
Try to be patient and give lots of attention and affection. Let her know that you are there for her all the time no matter what.
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