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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, I am in love with my former instructor. We have known each other for a little over a year. He is abnormally shy. How do I know if he is just being nice or if he actually cares for me without making him uncomfortable or embarrassing myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): This is a tricky situation you are in. If you are confident that he is sure of your feelings, it makes it even more difficult, because then a person would expect that he will make some type of advance. The fact that he does not, can mean that he is not interested in taking this further, or that he is giving it time for all the problmes or issues to settle.
I think maybe you should invite him to join you for coffee, if he does accept, it will be a good time to try and "read" his body language; if he declines, I think you have no choice but to leave it and let it be.
In closing, remember these words of Frank A. Clark:
"The next best thing to solving a problem is finding some humor in it".
When dealing with him, always try to SMILE and try to bring humor in.
Keep me posted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate***more information. I know he was interested at one point because he kissed me. Just as we began to converse on a regular basis his boss, also a former instructor, reminded him that I was technically still a student. I graduated in the summer. He wont initiate contact but he will talk to me for hours. I asked if it was OK if I got to know him better and he said "no, I never let anyone get to know me". I thought that meant we were only friends. As I excepted that he began to offer more personal information. Just as that happened we had a misunderstanding that caused him issues at work. At this point I am totally confused. I have no clue where we are. For a while he seemed slightly annoyed but when I told him I wouldn't bother him anymore he ignored that and continued the conversation. Why doesn't he just say something? I'm more than just sure he knows how I feel.
...I hope this is adequate information. This is a lengthy and sticky situation. Where do I go from here? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): If you know him for a year, you should be able to "sense" it or pick up vibes from his body language. Has he said anything to give you any indication? You are not giving enough information to really assit you with an answer.
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