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30-35,
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writes:Okay, so I have an amazing girlfriend... she is gorgeous, nice, and funny... but there is one thing that really gets on my nerves and I'm about sick of it. She is extremely controlling. I am in college, and she is still in high school and she sounds more like my mother than my girlfriend. For example, she always texts or calls me saying "are you budgeting your money, quit wasting money, how do you spend so much?!", etc etc. I appreciate her "help" but I can manage myself and don't need another parent. She tends to take sides with my sister if me and my sister get in a argument. She will take sides with my mother or father most of the time before me?! I know she loves me I love her, but she is trying too hard to impress my family is what it seems like to me. I'm about sick of her trying to control my every action...what should I do?
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (22 September 2009):
 I don't think she is agreeing with your family just to impress them. She probably genuinly agrees with them, and it would be stupid to pretend like she doesn't just because you don't want her to. She should however, give you her oppinion in public. And it should be important to her how you spend your money. It's kind of a turn-off for people in relationships if their significant others can't manage financially. It scares them and makes them think they don't have a stable future ahead. Financial problems are an enormous problem in marraiges. I'm sure she's just making sure you're well f and is looking out for you. Have you ever taken what she said into consideration and listened to it, and then let her know that? Or do you always resist in stubborness? You should probably NOT do that latter every time. Be objective. She may be making good points.
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reader, Nabs92  +, writes (22 September 2009):
Hi :)
She is probably trying to look out for you, because she cares about you. But ultimatly you have to learn from your own mistakes and start making your own decisions.
As the case is in many relationships, this problem could be solved if you talked to her about it. Be nice, but explain cleary and assertively how you feel.
Good luck x
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