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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating this girl for about a month and a half now, and it was going pretty good until recently. First things first, I want to make it clear that I met this girl two days after she broke up with her ex, and started dating her about a month after. Additionally, her and the ex go to school together. Now on to the story...When we first started dating, i made it clear to her that i did not want to be a rebound. She said i wasnt, so we went on with the relationship. As time passed, i noticed she was always talking bad about him, and said how much she annoyed her. When he contacted her, she would play it off as being "annoying." However, if there is one thing that is true, they do still stay in contact through texting. I let it go originally because they go to school together, but still thought it was uncalled for. Whenever i get a glimpse of her phone (never snooped), i notice that he is usually in her list of messaging conversations. rrgh.Last night, we were talking among friends, and a conversation came up that pertained to her school. She picked up her phone and texted someone to get an answer for the question asked. I didnt think anything of it, but when i glanced at her phone I saw she was texting her EX! Now, I got pissed cause she could have texted either of her two best friends this question, but decided on him. I think that is sketch. Additionally, she continued to text him for at least 20 more minutes. She said (while replying), "Ugh, why is he texting me..." and i was like "YO YOUR REPLYING TO HIM, of course hes gonna talk to you!" Nevertheless, i was pissed for the rest of the night, and she noticed because i wasnt being as affectionate. She was trying to kiss me, and i was half-kissing her back, until she rolled over and went to bed without saying a word.Then, we woke up this morning and it was sour between us. I was still pissed, she was still pissed, I could tell. We kissed goodbye, and I left. Havent talked to her all day.Additionally, our relationship has been moving really fast, and Im spending too much time with her. There are some other signs that I have been recieving that may constitute a "transitional relationship" for her, and I'm beginning to get worried. What should I do, break up with her or back off a little bit? We just had a talk the other day about some stuff so i dont want to have another one right away.Is this something i should be worried about? Am I in a rebound relationship? Should i be pissed about her texting her Ex? Should i back off/break up with her, or talk about it? Any advice would be awesome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): I'd say break up with her. She doesn't sound like she's respecting you as her new boyfriend. I find it very disturbing that she texts her ex as much as she does. You're definitely the rebound guy. Time to move on mate.
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