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writes:Since I have been dating my girlfriend (for over 4 years) she has been self consious about her weight. It is not uncommon for it to fluctuate 30 lbs in a year. She knows it doesn't bother me and I love her no matter what. I always console / support her when she is upset about her weight.Her sister in getting married the first weekend of Dec. She crashed dietied last spring to lose weight for the dress fitting (she is the maid of honor). Since then she has gained all the weight back she lost and some. She has not seen her sister since the dress fitting and has not told her about the weight. We go to college 6 hours away from where her sister/family lives. She was supossed to go home this holiday weekend because her sister called saying the dresses are in so she can get her final fitting. My gf was to embaressed to go home, and made an excuss to stay at college. According to her she will lose weight so when she goes home for Thanksgiving she can get the final fitting and if she doesn't lose the weight they can just take the dress out then.I have had two older sister get married myself and I could be wrong but is it possible to take out brides made dresses? Also its not like my gf has only a little weight to lose. For the fitting she weighed around 140 and got a size 8 dress (I remember this because she was so happy she could fit into an 8. As of yesterday she weighs 178 lbs and was upset because her size 14 jeans are too tight. She is only 5 ft 2 inches tall and I hate to be mean but she is not going to be able to hide the weight easlily from her family.My problem is that I do not know what to do. Do I try to convince her to tell her sister about her weight? This would make me have to bring up her weight a topic she is self conscious about and I topic I never talk about with her. Her sister has also flat out asked me if my gf has gained any weight since the fitting. She called me this morning and I let it go to voice mail. I can understand her sisters concern becuase my gf weight was 120 lb when we started dating and right now she is almost equal to her highest weight. I can see Thanksgiving being a disaster and am wondering if there is anything I can do to ease the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Ouch! What a delicate situation this is. You sound like such a nice guy..how lucky your girlfriend is to have you. Um..I wouldn't answer the sister's question about the weight..that's really not fair of her to put you in that situation...as for your girlfriend, tell her you love her and you know she is very distressed about all of this. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help? Approach it with kid gloves of course..obviously she's very sensitive about it..BUT..she's not going to be able to hide it forever..she needs to tell her sister, the sooner the better. Of course they can let out the dress (not sure how much, but certainly some!)..but putting it off, isn't going to help, and is just actually going to make your girlfriend more stressed. Poor girl...I really do feel for her. I hope you can make her feel better. Just try to be there for her if/when her sister freaks out, because I guarantee she probably will..brides to be get pretty hyper over EVERYTHING!!
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