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writes:my girlfriend and i have been together for over a year now. we started dating in high school and now i am at a local university, she wants to go to a different province for school. anyway, my gf is really god looking, brown hair, hazel eyes, to make a long story short she has a nice set up, guys have tried hitting on her when im in the same room. as for myself i dont really compare, im short, dont have the best body or looks, i have severe eczema to the point where i cant move sometimes, allerges the whole works.she is going to collage away from home next year and i have this feeling in my gut that she is going to cheat on me with some good looking cowboy( she is going to a horse school). she said she loves me and she said she would never do that. i have researched on the web and i have read some stories about ppl who are in love with each other so much but the girl cheats anyways,curosity?. that doesnt make me feel good. so my question is how should i feel? should i be worried since she is so pretty? and the fact its so easy to cheat when you are away from home. i have this gut feeling something is going to happen. help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): People cheat for all sorts of reasons. They also DON'T cheat for all sorts of reasons.I'm good looking, tall, blond, athletic when I was younger and reasonably so now, I've heard second hand or third hand about local women referring to me as "devastatingly handsome", and I make a lot of money. I also work almost exclusively with women, most of them younger by 10-20 years than me, many of them single/divorced/looking. In a meeting yesterday I was the only male in the room, out of 15 people. I definitely have opportunity, and a lot of it if I want to open that door at all. However, I don't cheat, I've never cheated, and I don't want to ever cheat. It's been suggested to my wife, more than once, that she should be "concerned", and she does not feel as attractive as me, which is devastating painful in relationships. On the other hand, I think my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, and want nothing more than to be with her, and only her."should i be worried since she is so pretty"No, you shouldn't be worried because she is pretty, or because you are who you are. You should tell her that you love her EVERY SINGLE DAY. You should tell her that she is beautiful, and mean it, EVERY SINGLE DAY. You should tell her that you miss her, and mean it, EVERY SINGLE DAY. You should trust her, EVERY SINGLE DAY.Then, she will do what she is going to do, and you will do what you are going to do.If you have low self esteem or high insecurity, your chances of cheating are higher, and you probably feel insecure and that is a risk factor....for you to cheat.Stay away from friends that are not supportive of your relationship, stay away from drugs and alcohol, and love her with all you have in you.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Worry and jealousy are unattractive things that won't strengthen your relationship. She's going, so act trusting and confident that your love with be enough to keep her faithful and coming back to you. Not so much that she feels taken for granted, though!
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reader, honeybabe  +, writes (14 January 2011):
if she is serious with you like you have plans in the future of settling down she wont cheat..but if you are showing him of being unsure of the future for the both of you, she will start looking for a guy that will make her feel secured. If i were you start telling her about future..dream house.. garden weddings.. sons and daughters.. Growing old together! if you yourself cannot show her these..then you yourself in not serious. So why waste time???
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 It is easy to cheat for everyone, do you trust her enough to stay with her now? If not, I think it is best if you break up. Her physical appearance has nothing to do with this. It is all about character. Is she the type of girl to do those things or is she more trustworthy than that? If you cannot trust her, why are you with her?
I hope that helps.
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