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writes:hi everyone my name is michael.im here to get some help. what should i do. ok here it is. im 22 and i have been with my girlfriend on and off for almost 3 years we have a son together and we where happy at one point. but for the past 3 or 4 weeks she has been avoiding me. she lives with her family which hate me and i live alone. if i do see her then she dont want me to touch her. my biggest problem our son she acts like hes only hers i can only see him when its on her time i cant see him if shes at work or school. she is very controling. so should i be worried that shes cheating? or does she not want to be with me??? im confused i dont know what to do???? help me please
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): First of all if she is very controlling thats not going to change and if she jumped up and changed all of a sudden its something she's doing and it's nothing good. and if you want to see your son ans she only will let you on her time theh take further actions. because its only going to hurt the child in the long run. So whatever or whoever it may be let her deal with it and you let go and live life as well. Wish you the best of luck with the situation.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 January 2010):
Okay, well let me be honest here and I don't mean to take sides and put you down as I could be completely wrong, but she could have a very good reason for it.
You say that you two have been on-and-off for years, you have a child together, and her family hates you. Perhaps you two have a toxic relationship in the first place and sometimes you're not exactly someone she trusts being around your own child without her supervision. Even if you are the father, a mother will watch her child like a hawk around someone she isn't 100% sure about. I'm just saying I've been close to a situation like that, and it's not because I'm a controlling person, but the ex wasn't someone I trusted to be caring for a child without me there.
I really think you just need to talk to her. Communication is a big part of why there are misunderstandings and you may be thinking she's one way and she's thinking you're one way when both aren't the case. Her reasons for the way she's acting may just be a misunderstanding on your part. Are you sure that you two are still in a relationship? It seems like she's kind of decided it's no longer a relationship, at least the way that I'm reading it.
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