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writes: I loved my girl, but i cheated on her and now shes making me work so hard n give back nothin, i dont mind when i do it, but when i look back i feel like she shouldnt keep me around and telling me things are gonna get better, when they might never. Its expensive and taxing having a gf and Having a gf is like a job sometimes, you work hard to get a reward, but ive worked harder then ever and im getting shit on. Do you think it will ever get better, we were the perfecf couple, spent everyday together, in family n shit, so entwined in my life, i feel obligated to make it up to her, it was like fucking over my brother or sister, youd never lose em forever. Am i just too nice or naive? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): She is probably more cut up about this than you realise and if you were as close as you say then if I were her then this would mess me up forever.
You are seriously lucky she has taken you back even if she is making you work for it, if my bf cheated on me I couldn't even look at him without wanting to be sick and give him a punch so for her to give you a chance is very lucky for you.
Try talking to her as well as making it up to her. She needs to her you say sorry and mean it without her having to bring it up.
If you both really want this to work you have to show her she can trust you and that will take a lot of time and effort and if its too much like a job for you then maybe you should call it a day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): You cheated on her, you need to work hard at getting her trust and respect back.
If you are going to view every relationship as being taxing, well then stop dating!
All relationships need work, and whether it will get better depends upon you and your attitude towards her.
So if you were the perfect couple, why did you cheat on her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): I think it's time to move on...it sounds like it is really damaged. I hope you've learnt the lesson...it's horrible you cheated on her and unfortunately, she can never forget it, and no matter what you both do you both will remember what happened and the relationship will never be the same. Don't do that to a girl if you care about the relationship, why should she ever trust you after you did that? I know it's harsh but you need to understand what went wrong.
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